So I feel a little desperate about our toddler's sleep situation and am looking for some advice/encouragement. In short, DS was a champion sleeper from birth always - we never sleep trained him and don't believe/do in CIO. We did end up putting him in his own room because he was sleeping so well at night by himself. This was wonderful for 9-10 months but then DS started having really bad allergic reactions (biphasic ana reactions which are really scary at night) so I started sleeping w/him more in his room (we had an extra bed we put in there) I would lay down w/him until he fell asleep and go back to our room or whatever I was doing if it was early (like cleaning the kitchen).
Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago - DS just turned 2, I'm 18 weeks pregnant and co sleeping w/DS has been progressively getting difficult and uncomfortable for me. He insists on sleeping directly on my left shoulder only w/my left arm wrapped around him, if I move my arm he wakes up and won't go back down for a while. He's almost 36 lbs and it kills my arm and makes my whole back sore - plus he started getting up in the middle of the night for a couple of hours (usually between 1-4)
I decided it was time for a toddler bed, we're not CIO or anything, I sit w/him until he falls asleep and then leave - but I'm sleeping less - it's been a week and a half in the toddler bed, he goes in it w/no problems, doesn't want to rock w/me and generally seems to like the bed. As SOON as I leave he wakes up. Last night he feel asleep early because he didn't nap (that's prob. another post) and woke up just as I was going to sleep - I was up until 4 am when I finally just brought him into our bed (which really isn't big enough for the 3 and half of us)
Will he get better about sleeping in his bed? I would hate to back track and do this whole thing again after the baby comes and have him feel like it's about the baby and his displacement BUT I was up a total of 22 hours yesterday and can't do that either. FWIW, we are on top of his allergies and in a generally good place w/them.
Fast forward to a couple of weeks ago - DS just turned 2, I'm 18 weeks pregnant and co sleeping w/DS has been progressively getting difficult and uncomfortable for me. He insists on sleeping directly on my left shoulder only w/my left arm wrapped around him, if I move my arm he wakes up and won't go back down for a while. He's almost 36 lbs and it kills my arm and makes my whole back sore - plus he started getting up in the middle of the night for a couple of hours (usually between 1-4)
I decided it was time for a toddler bed, we're not CIO or anything, I sit w/him until he falls asleep and then leave - but I'm sleeping less - it's been a week and a half in the toddler bed, he goes in it w/no problems, doesn't want to rock w/me and generally seems to like the bed. As SOON as I leave he wakes up. Last night he feel asleep early because he didn't nap (that's prob. another post) and woke up just as I was going to sleep - I was up until 4 am when I finally just brought him into our bed (which really isn't big enough for the 3 and half of us)
Will he get better about sleeping in his bed? I would hate to back track and do this whole thing again after the baby comes and have him feel like it's about the baby and his displacement BUT I was up a total of 22 hours yesterday and can't do that either. FWIW, we are on top of his allergies and in a generally good place w/them.
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