Deep Sex - Can it cause harm at all?

[gummibears]

You know it's weird asking this, but it's been a while since I was pregnant, and we didn't go as deep then... so I worry a bit.

Does deep sex cause any harm to a baby or pregnancy? I've been feeling a bit of a burn for a bit afterward (he is near the front area and brushes against the clitoral area this might be part of it) and once that subsides it feels a bit sore inside. Not overly so... just like... mild bruising. And this was when I limited how deep it was. It's also the third night in a row we've been active, and I've considered it's just adding up from night-to-night. It did hurt those other nights but I hadn't known one of them I was pg and the other I thought it was gonna be ok.)

I've not had any bleeding or anything. I have some tummy cramps now hours later, but I'm not certain that's related at all to it since that's common with pregnancy and all.

I've yet to go to the doctor since testing... later this week as we are rather busy til then. But I wanted to allay any concerns prior to that now - if possible.

I know baby is really well protected and all that jazz. And I was active with my other pregnancy - just not deep... so any help will be great. TIA.

[NewMaMaZenLovin]

I actually have some of the same fears. Im 22 weeks and while we are gentle(when we have sex at all which isnt often) I get a little carried away and need it a bit "rough" sometimes. THen I think "GREAT shaken baby syndrome before the kids even born." I dont know how to play the music to usher him off stage either. Its like when I orgasm I instantly lose interest in the whole shabang but I dont want to make him feel like im over it. He gets it so rarley too that once he's in there I know he dosnt want to leave cause he dosnt know when I'll be in the mood next. But it always leads to me drying up and feeling small tears around the opening, and flexing my stomache to try and cushon the pushin, and trying to give little sounds and movments that i feel will help him finish tha damn show already.

"id like to thank the academy first (daaaa da da da DAAAA da) and my wonderful director (DDDDAAAAA DA DA DADAAAA DA) and of course my wonderfully talented supporting actors with (DDDDDDDDDAAAAAAAAAAA DADA DDDDAAAAA) whom i never could have done it without (DADAAAAA DA) *cut to commercial*

[Contrariety]

Are you sure you don't have a mild yeast infection? Sex was like that for a looooooong time when I was pg with my first and I didn't know it was yeast because that's the only symptom I had. It was burny and uncomfy during sex and that was about it other than an increase in discharge which is supposed to be normal during pregnancy. It's worth checking out.

Oh, and I think your babe is find with deep sex, unless you have been advised to have pelvic rest, you should be okay.

[NewMoonMum]

Ditto PP-unless on pelvic rest, it's fine as long as, of course, it is not uncomfortable for you! Since things become engorged rather quickly, and blood supply is increased, it is quite possible to have some light pink spotting after sex, or even a pelvic exam, so keep that in mind, too.
Good luck with everything!

[gummibears]

NewMaMaZenLovin I've been there. Last night sadly was one of them. It just got a bit uncomfy but I stuck it out so he could finish and I'm off and on a bit sore (but that's not uncommon anyway, so)

Usually when pregnant I love it not sure how it'll go this time around. It seems even shallow it kinda hurts, so I might not be giving the show to him as much as either of us might like. What DH doesn't go through for us (and vice versa) huh?

Glad I'm not the only one with the concerns, though!

Contrariety & NewMoonMum I'm not sure, no. In fact, I had one early on with my son, and it's completely possible that I might have one again. Despite my cf being overly wet, that is, the burning did kinda make me think it was something along those lines. I'll bring it up later this week with the doctor and see what she says.

Thanks for the assurance that even if I'm a bit uncomfy (or even if I did spot a bit) baby is a-ok. I kinda figured that, but well, after it taking so long to GET here I had some itty bitty worries.

Good luck to all of you as well.

[Lady Lilya]

I've been finding my cervix feels sensitive, so I've been specifically requesting positions that keep it from bothering my cervix too much. Specifically, no missionary position. The position that works best is me on my hands and knees. The majority of the force is absorbed by the front wall (where my g-spot is).

[MegBoz]

I had to laugh at "shaken baby syndrome" for an unborn baby. I teach group fitness classes & a fellow instructor on a forum wrote that a participant said to her, "Your baby's brain is being shaken around in there!" Like teaching aerobics pregnant was dangerous.

Uh, not really an issue for an unborn baby. They're cushioned inside amniotic fluid, inside the uterus, inside your body. Feel free to run, jump, and hump to your heart's content. Seriously - physical activity & exercise are not only NOT damaging to your baby, but they are beneficial to baby as well as you (see the book, "Exercising Through your Pregnancy" by Dr. Clapp if you'd like to read up on the details of his research.)

As for deep sex, I've never read or heard anything that would lead me to believe it was detrimental at all. Obviously if he's really wacking your cervix hard & slamming into it, that's going to hurt (that's happened to me), but if that is NOT happening & it's feeling good, then all should be well. And even if he DOES wack your cervix, I don't imagine it would be a big problem. I guess if he did it repeatedly, it could swell & bruise or something, but, again, it will be painful so obviously you wouldn't be keeping it up enough to cause that sort of harm to the cervix.