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Not dealing well this year

post #1 of 25
Thread Starter 
This week is anniversary week.
Lianne's birthday is Thursday and would be 9 and the accident was 4 years ago sunday.
I am not dealing well with the guilt this year.
I am pregnant again with a little girl and I keep thinking I don't deserve to her. It was my fault that I lost my other one.
I guess this is really never going to feel better
post #2 of 25
I am so so sorry

Lianne
post #3 of 25
I am so sorry for your loss and your pain.
post #4 of 25
My son would have been 17 on the 3rd of September. No it isn't getting better. I smile, I laugh, I go about life, and cry only when I am alone. No one knows what it's like unless it has happened to them. I'm sorry, op.
post #5 of 25
I am so sorry for your loss.
post #6 of 25
I am sorry that you have lost a child. HUGS to you. Do you want to share a happy story about Lianne?
post #7 of 25
I'm so very sorry, mama.
post #8 of 25
I'm so sorry.
post #9 of 25
I'm so sorry. You and your family are in my prayers.
post #10 of 25
Thread Starter 
I can't believe I did that!
Her birthday is TODAY not tomorrow.
I guess I thought I needed one more day.

Happy Birthday my dear sweet Lianne.
I miss you so much. You loved everybody.
I am so sorry.
post #11 of 25
Be gentle to yourself. So sorry for your loss.
post #12 of 25
Thread Starter 
mad and sad right now.
Some silly fb page doing a poll asking ppl what they can't live without. And without an exception every answer is "my kids" "my family"

It feels almost like a slap in the face. They don't know. They can't imagine.
What does that say about those of us who did lose children and still somehow manage to keep living?
post #13 of 25
Many hugs to you. I am so sorry for your loss.
post #14 of 25
I am so sorry for your loss, mama. Lianne
post #15 of 25
Happy Birthday Lianne

I am so sorry for your loss.
post #16 of 25
Quote:
Originally Posted by aslmere View Post
What does that say about those of us who did lose children and still somehow manage to keep living?
I don't know personally, but I think it means you are strong, brave and doing the best you can...
post #17 of 25
I was just thinking of you today, Nina. I can't believe four years have passed. My heart is heavy for Tom, and extra heavy for you. It's an incredible weight you've had to bear. But Nina, the load you had to carry before that day was heavy. I think it's important, though, that you focus on how you were a good mother to Lianne and Finn (and Connor too!); because you were. In every picture I've seen, they're smiling and happy.

There are reasons beyond your understanding that you and Connor survived the accident. It is God's intention that you bring this baby girl into the world, and there's a reason he chose you to do it. You made a terrible and tragic mistake because you were exhausted. It doesn't make you a bad mother, Nina, it makes you human. You take care of your children (*all* of them) better than many people do. You do the best you can for them, and you have since the moment Lianne was born. Not only do you deserve this baby, but this baby deserves a wonderful mother like you.

@-)-- RIP Lianne

@-)-- RIP Finn
post #18 of 25
I agree with Blu Razzberri. You don't know me but I remember your accident and I think of your children everytime I see your user name.

Be gentle with yourself mama.

Martha
post #19 of 25
post #20 of 25
I am so so sorry
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