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post #21 of 25
I hope this post won't make you feel worse--but I have to share this with you. On my anniversary this last year, my h announced that he no longer wanted to be married. He has been my life for 20 years. He then walked out on the kids and I over the summer.
Do you know that YOU came to mind? I remember reading your story and just crying like there was no tomorrow--and at that time, my family was "relatively" happy (of course, I thought we were happy all along but apparently I was the only one who felt that way)--and all seemed well. And how strange it would seem that I was sitting in my car thinking--how am I going to do this? And suddenly you came to mind and it was a source of inspiration.

So I guess what I am saying is this: when all was going to hell for me, I thought of you and women like you who have survived tragedies and difficult times and made it through. You did it. It never gets better. But you ARE doing it. And it gave me hope. That means a lot to me.
I wish you peace with this new baby. A new baby brings such joy--I wish you the best.
post #22 of 25
When I am driving on the highway and I am exhausted I think of you. In reading what happened to you I make myself pull over and switch with my husband. Instead of myself being stubborn (it happens) and pushing myself I pull over. Any one of us could have had this happen. You were a tired mom. I am so sorry this happened to you and your family. I wish you peace with the new life growing inside of you. You deserve it!
post #23 of 25
Couldn't read and not post. Please know that I'm carrying you and your family in my heart.
post #24 of 25
I also, could not read this without posting. Guilt is a dangerous and scary thing. I can not claim to know how you feel, and I would never tell you to feel differently. I've lost two to miscarriage, but I know it does not compare. I wanted to thank you for sharing your story. I want to thank you for being the strong woman that you are, even if you may not always feel that way. I know I will think of you and your family often, both now and in the future. I just wanted to reach out to you and say, maybe, instead of feeling like you don't deserve another child, maybe, this baby girl you are bringing into the world is a GIFT from your daughter and son, because they love you, because they see your pain, and because they want to give you hope. Perhaps, it is their way of telling you that they are okay, and they'd like you to live with as much happiness as you possibly can.

Hugs to you.
post #25 of 25

Much love to you candle.gif hug.gif

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