Anyone who ever coslept actually have children who ever SLEEP, on their own, all night long? - Page 3

[meemee]

my dd is 8 with a very active imagination. she could never sleep in a separate room on a different floor. no way. she also has anxiety. the anxiety wont allow the distance.

[Tway]

I often wonder the same thing--especially in the middle of the night when my eyeballs weigh 10 pounds and I'd make a deal with the devil for a full night's sleep again.

But 2 of my best friends coslept with their kids, and they give me hope. One coslept until her DDs were 2, then they went into their own beds. They wake occasionally from nightmares or to go to the bathroom, but that's it. The other coslept with her DS until he was about 6 months, then he went into his crib. He's 4 and sometimes has periods of waking a lot, but then he goes through other periods where he STTN. So... I guess it's a matter of character.

[momoftworedheads]

Our boys are 10, 8, 5 and 1.

Our 10 yr old and 8 yr old co-slept with us then one another. They both sleep. Our 10 yr old slept through the night at 6 weeks and never looked back. Our 8 yr old co-slept with us until he was 3.5 yrs old, then he made the transition to co-sleeping with his brother. They now sleep in the same room.

Take care!

[marimara]

I coslept till 2yo, now my 4 yo sleeps in her bed 98% of the time all night. IF she wakes up she does come to my bed and she comes into my bed in the mornings. I still lay down with her in her bed till she falls asleep though.

[St. Margaret]

Haven't read the whole thread. I know what it's like to have a small home. Is there any way you could have a bed or mattress or something for the 4yo to sleep on near you? Maybe make it a rule for her to be on Daddy's side, to ensure safety for the new baby? If things were this bad, I'd be rearranging the house and getting rid of stuff to try to fit a mattress on the floor even near DH's side. Or getting a big bed for the other room and having DH sleep there (he did this a while b/c I had to sleep on my own, trying to sleep with great pain, and then DD got a bit used to it).

For what it's worth, DD is 3 and sleeps on her own. Sometimes she'll wake up with a nightmare (like last night, she woke crying but when I came in, already up from pregnancy insomnia and hunger, she said, was that just my dream? and cuddled and went back to sleep), or wanting water, even tho the water bottle is always right there, whatever, but the majority of nights she goes all night. I agree, it's important for kids to not be climbing in bed when there's a new baby there. Perhaps your 4yo will move past this phase soon, but if it keeps up, I'd move heaven and earth for better sleep, in whatever safe way I could. Good luck!