How to explain details of conception to my 5 year old?

[iot]

I have posted a few times before, though I'm not a regular. DD is 5 and has had many questions about conception as I'm trying to conceive #2 and she wants to know all the details. She knows about menstruation and that a "seed" of mine needs to meet a "seed" of dad in order for a baby to be made, but she wants to know exactly how dad gets his "seeds" inside of mom. I want to give her a natural and honest answer but I must confess I feel strange about it. She has asked me three times. The first time something happened and we got distracted, the second time we were at a store and I told her I wanted to give her an answer but I needed to think how to explain it when we got home (then she didn't bring it up, so we forgot) and then recently she asked me again and I told her that I wanted to explain this to her, just needed to think how to do so.
I wanted to NOT make a big deal out of it, but perhaps by postponing I have done just that?
I wonder if any one here has had a similar experience, maybe there is a book or a website I could use with her? she is very logical and I'm pretty sure she will ask more details if I just tell her "dad puts his penis inside my vagina" so I want to be prepared.

Also, would you bring the topic up or would you just wait till she asks again?

Thank you!

[loraxc]

We have a great book called It's Not The Stork that DD has read herself (we also discussed it with her, but the book seems to be getting read on a semi-regular basis, too). It should be fine for your DD's reading level. It's fairly straightforward and does not shrink from the details, so you may want to preview it if you have that sort of concern.

[RiverTam]

When DS#2 was late 3 or early 4, he wanted to know all that stuff. I let him take the lead and ask for what he wanted to know. He finally got down to it and I had to say "The dad puts his penis in the mom's vagina, and the sperm comes out. The egg is in the mom. That's how the sperm gets to the egg. "

I also read "Where Did I Come From?" to him and his brother.

http://www.amazon.com/Where-Did-Come...ef=pd_sim_b_12

It's pretty explicit, in kid friendly terms. I'd get the book and rotate it into my regular reading pile.

[meemee]

i think you ARE the best resource. so yeah the 'daddy puts his... talk' is the best way to go.

no book helped my dd. her questions were - how does daddy know when to pee and when to pass semen? (my answer i have no idea) or if pee is transparent and yellow what does semen look like? (like baby lotion)

i noticed she was just curious but i was having a hard time. and you have had the time to explore your own issues. so just be direct and answer the exact questions without adding anything extra to it.

i had the same issue with the death question.

[TiredX2]

I second "Its Not The Stork" (or "It's Perfectly Amazing" if you want to go with a slightly older age explanation).

Slightly

Originally Posted by meemee

i think you ARE the best resource. so yeah the 'daddy puts his... talk' is the best way to go.

This is rather picky, but I would really encourage "The man (or daddy) and woman (or mommy) put the daddy's penis in the mommy's vagina" rather than the "daddy puts his...". Simply because it presents sex as something two people do together rather than one person doing to another person.

[HeatherB]

Moving from Gifted to Childhood Years as this is a pretty typical issue for kids of this age.

[LynnS6]

Yep, it's time for:

"Daddy and Mommy put daddy's penis into Mommy's vagina. The sperm come out of Daddy's penis and swim up to where the eggs are. If one of the sperm and the egg meet, then it can start a baby."

Dd asked this question just after she turned 4. Thankfully, I'd been reading MDC and had this answer (that I stole from someone else) ready.

Then after that, read "Ir's Not the Stork". It's Not the Stork doesn't really go into the details of the deed, so you'll have to do that yourself. But It's Not the Stork has lots of good info. I'm about to get "It's So Amazing".

[iot]

Thanks a lot everyone for your answers! I think part of the issue is that I feel a little weird explaining intercourse to a child so young, but I bet she will see it as something natural and just an interesting fact. I just checked out both "it's not the stork" and "it's so amazing". They both seem great and I'm sure she will be interested in reading them together and on her own (I'm going to start with "It's not the stork" and move on to the other one if she wants to know more details). "It's so amazing" goes into a little more details and I can see it using some sections more than others for now (she wants to know, for example, why it is not always easy for the sperm to find the egg, and there is a nice section on this in "It's so amazing"). They are both fun books, I think she is going to love the style in which they are written.

Now I just have to decide if I should wait until she asks again or just bring the topic up myself, since I do owe her the answer...

Thanks again!