I just wanted to give everyone who was so generous with their advice an update --
After being told over and over by our insurance company and the office people at Boston IVF that there was no way we could expect to get coverage, WE GOT COVERAGE!
It was a huge pain in the ass slog in order to get in to see an actual doctor but, once we did, he turned out to be a godsend. The PA we saw at first strongly recommended that we try Dr O instead of Dr Ryley specifically because she thought we needed someone to buck the system and advocate for our weird situation and she was right. Dr O was just incensed about the insurance company and...truthfully, I think he may be committing fraud on our behalf. I know he came right out and lied on a form saying he had medical knowledge of our previous 12 attempts to conceive. He pushed all our paperwork through Blue Cross and the whole approval process only took four days. I was ecstatic.
Now, we're on our second IUI cycle with femara/trigger and it's not working for crap but who cares! IT'S FREE!
(that is a lie. I totally care. thank goodness it turns out that TTC sucks slightly less when you already have an adorable kid running around calling you "Meme!")
ETA: I wondered if listing our doc would be against the UA and I'm afraid it is -- PM me if you want the full name of our RE
Edited by CassnBeth - 1/13/11 at 5:06am