lunch today

[A&A]

Today at lunch, two of my co-workers (whom I was sitting right next to) started discussing their babies' circumcisions (complete with details.) One woman was complaining she had to pay for the circ out of pocket. Now, these are two women with whom I shared info when they were both pregnant. I was so appalled that they would have this discussion in front of me, so I picked up my half-eaten food and walked out.

Uggh. When I told dh the story, he said that was kind of "weird" of me to walk out. But I was seriously going to cry or throw up if I stayed!

Then I came home and hugged my intact son.

Just had to get this out.

[Night_Nurse]

I don't think I could have stayed and listened to it either.
I'm sorry for their sons that the parents had the info and circed anyway. I hope the parents at least got the boys some pain relief.
Try not to be discouraged that they circed anyway. You did a good thing by giving them some information. So many people never know there is an option. Keep up the good work!

[A&A]

Originally Posted by Night_Nurse

I don't think I could have stayed and listened to it either.
I'm sorry for their sons that the parents had the info and circed anyway. I hope the parents at least got the boys some pain relief.
Try not to be discouraged that they circed anyway. You did a good thing by giving them some information. So many people never know there is an option. Keep up the good work!

Thanks!

[vachi73]

First, hugs to you. I would've had the same reaction (nausea!) if a similar situation had happened to me.

Second, I struggle mightily with knowing when/if it is appropriate to bring up intactivist topics. I am about 0-for-??? on trying to convince others to leave their sons intact. (Clearly, my approach is not effective.) I think that a work setting makes it even more difficult ... some people (not me, but others) have alleged that this topic borders on "sexual harassment" (soooooo clearly not, but so it goes) that you're kind of caught between a rock and hard place.

third, YEAH for your intact boy! I celebrate that with you, and so do my four intact boys!!

hugs mama

[A&A]

Originally Posted by vachi73

third, YEAH for your intact boy! I celebrate that with you, and so do my four intact boys!!

hugs mama

Thanks!!

I've only been able to convince people I'm really close to--my sister, my cousin, and one friend.

[vachi73]

Well, celebrate! I have failed with cousin and sister, miserably. In both cases, husbands were adamant, mothers were compliant, and I have looked like a hippie (not that I care at all!!!)

I have a SIL expecting in Feb, and I am more optimistic. Pretty sure if a boy they will leave him intact. at least so i am hoping/praying.

Husband has a colleague expecting a boy in Jan, and I'm 50/50 on that one. I want to discuss but she (mother) is sooooo clearly avoiding me that I am sure that they will circ and I'll be forced to hear about it. This, from a mom who INSISTED on "natural" everything, then had trouble nursing her daughter ... I'm SURE they will have "natural" everything followed by a high-and-tight circ on day 1 and then wonder why baby boy won't nurse well ... SIGH

Sometimes I get so exasperated!! Why is this so hard for some people to get???

[jenP]

Detailed discussions of surgery and post-surgical wound care are never appropriate mealtime conversation, regardless of how you feel about the ethics of the particular surgery being discussed.

Jen

[SleeplessMommy]

It is a tough situation to be in. I am sorry

Thanks to the new CDC stats, we can be snarky and say "I am surprised you did it. Only 30% of boys are circed these days."

No one wants their son's private parts to be in the minority.

[Arduinna]

Given the fact that we can't even use the accurate name for what we do to boys, it's not surprising that people act like it's no big deal and is appropriate lunch conversation. With girls we get all horrified and use the correct terminology but not with boys.

[babygrant]

That happened to me once at work except for we were in the middle of getting a patient up out of bed for the day so I couldn't walk out. Two co-workers, one female and one male, were talking about their childrens circumcisions. Going on and on and on about it and how they had to leave the floor of the hospital because they could hear the baby screaming. The one lady said she just went down to the coffee bar with her husband while it was being done and then went back when it was all done and over with and took him home. It was disgusting. I also probably came home and hugged my two perfect intact boys.