The only person to suggest I stop feeding my baby if she wakes up in the middle of the night with the underlying implication that I should let her cry (which is rarely now, maybe once a night around 4 or 5) was some lady on the bus who I guess was trying to make conversation and she says "She wakes up because she knows you'll feed her." complete with waggling eyebrows that insinuated my baby was plotting against me, in a devilish attempt to wreak havoc on my sleep cycles. (muwah ha ha ha ha!)
And I said "Yep."
And sort of cocked my head at her. I mean, no kidding. She's not waking up because she thinks I'll play patty cake!
If I or DH can't be bothered to feed a baby once or twice in the night we really should have gotten a pet you feed once a day, like a fish. Or maybe a boa constrictor, they only eat like once a week. But we had a baby, and until they get a bit older they tend to get hungry in the middle of a 10 hour sleep shift...go figure. They have tummies the size of a quarter.
And you know what, sometimes she's not hungry. Sometimes she just needs a wee cuddle. Like I never wake up scared or lonely in the middle of the night, or just cold and shivery and need a little warm hubby to spoon me back to sleep? Sure. And my poop smells like honey cakes and cinnamon.
I think people who believe CIO is a good idea should have to do it themselves. They should walk the walk. They should go to sleep alone in a dark room, in a cage (because can you really even do CIO if you haven't got a crib to put them in?), on a thin foam rubber mattress over a planked surface, with no blankets or pillows (god forbid you run the risk of SIDS while your baby cries him or herself into a snoty nosed hysteria), in stuffy footed pijamas or a sleep sack, about an hour before they are really tired, while their best friends
are in the living room having what sounds like a really good time, and they should be forced to stay there, all alone, for ten - twelve hours with no food or water, no entertainment, no light, and no one to talk to or books to read, no warm body to snuggle into, nothing. See how well they sleep.
Just once and I bet it will cure them of CIO for life.
I mean really...why should your baby suck it up and go with it if you can't?