My mom, who can NOT understand my parenting choices ("You just make things so much harder for yourself") has not said anything to me specifically in a long time about letting my DD CIO. She does throw in little digs here and there by saying things like "Jim and Cindy are such good parents. Their baby is so well trained".
I know at least two children that were 'sleep-trained' based on the "BabyWise" book (for those not familiar, it puts babies as young as 8 weeks, maybe younger, on a very strict feed/play/sleep schedule). Both of the children, one is 10 yo and the other is 3 yo, are now extremely insecure and have some serious issues. The 10 year old has been described as sad, lonely and almost dark. The 3 year old is extremely insecure, cries all the time and clings to her mom for dear life. And both their mothers still push "BabyWise" claiming it is a must...such a disconnect. And these are the mothers that look at me like I'm stupid...
DD is almost 10 mo and I couldn't imagine placing her in a crib and shutting the door behind me, saying 'good luck, see ya in the morning'. I don't know how people do it....I don't want to know! I'm going to go hug my little girl now!
Mama to DD (11/09)
Most people I know who CIO still have bratty kids, so I don't know why they're always patting themselves on the back for their "superior" parenting skills.