May have to stop co-sleeping earlier than Id hoped

[Adaline'sMama]

So, DH told me yesterday that when DD is old enough to start pulling up on stuff, he wants her to sleep in her own bed. He will NOT compromise and put the mattress on the floor. He feels like she can stay in the bed as long as the bedrails are working, but when she is old enough to go over the bedrails, she needs to go. The thing is, he just bought a new bed. He doesnt want to put it on the floor because before we bought this bed, our matress was on the floor because we didnt have enough money for a bedframe.

So, our plan is to have a twin mattress on the floor as a toddler bed for her, so that I can lay down with her to nurse. This bed would be on my side of the bed, on the floor, right next to me.

I know he is mainly concerned about her safety and her not falling over the bedrails, but can someone please tell me how likely that really is?

I was planning on co sleeping until we stopped nursing (2-3) years old.

[akind1]

DS has been pulling up on the bedrail (we have only one, on my side) for 2 months or so. He has never fallen off the bed this way (but he has crawled off on DH's side of the bed).

I think your solution is great, I wish we had room for a twin bed in our room, with the king size bed. Being in the same room is the main thing for me, not necessarily the same bed. That way you can still get cuddles when you or she want/need them, and have your own space too.

That said, I don't think it is super likely for her to go head over heels over the bed rail.

[Lady Lilya]

DS did fall off the bed a couple of times that way. When he was first able to drag himself over, but still very uncoordinated and with poor understanding of distances and drops. But it passed quickly, and we just kept cosleeping like that.

We did eventually put the bed on the floor, because we got a second mattress and put the both mattresses together so there would be room for DH to sleep with us. Our previous arrangement was too tiny.

[Friday13th]

I have to say, if we had attempted this when DS was starting to pull up, I would have been sleeping full time on a twin mattress on the floor. (and I would have been pissed) DS tended to sleep worse the more physical milestones he was working on and he was teething hardcore around that time so he pretty much needed nursing and snuggling all night.

I, personally, wouldn't be terribly worried about a kid falling over the bed rail, but I don't know how your DD is at night. DS never really moved around the bed without us and wouldn't have pulled up unless he was fully awake (meaning we were also fully awake). We never put our mattress on the floor and he learned to scoot off the bed before he was pulling himself up.

I think, unless your DH is willing to take on the added nightime parenting necessitated by your DD sleeping in a seperate space, he's going to have to compromise somewhere.