My secret reason...

[Orro]

Hey there.

i was reading around the forum and found many women are pretty much in the same situation as myself - mother doesn't want to hear about the mare idea of UC ,husband rather shacky about it ...
i thought to join some of the threads but then thought it might be rude so ive started one of my own

i am slowly recovering my fears and turning them into somthing i can use instead of being swallowed by ,i have the will and the health to be able to UC at home with my husband and son (2 and a half years old -was born at home and was born free although we had a midwife with us which basically made me feel like i should rush with the birth simply because i wasn't feeling so comfortable about having anyone near me at the moment.)
i still feel like i need some great big mama telling me its a good thing to do (well my mother is a sort of girl who fears watching birth so talking to her and wishing for some sympathy is rather ..no!)
ooops the little one woke up i have to attend to him
will write more tomorrow!!! sorrryyyy

MamaO

[Banana731]

Hi

You sound like you know what you want, "mother's approval" or no! Enjoy the journey!

[dayiscoming2006]

Do what feels right. Share information with your hubby to calm any fears he may have. If you are close to a hospital that may also help to calm his fears.

The more you know about UC, the more confident you will become. Research, research, research. And share your research with hubby. Explain how you felt about your midwife to him as well. I don't have the support of my parents either but sometimes we have to be our own person and not let whatever our parents think have such an effect on us. I learned this finally.

Another good idea would be to share some happy UC birth stories with your hubby. Make sure to get some information on how to deal with whatever complication could potentially arise to. Just having that information I think would be a comfort.

[MeesterMama]

Originally Posted by dayiscoming2006

The more you know about UC, the more confident you will become. Research, research, research. And share your research with hubby.

I couldnt agree more. This helped us so much. The more we researched the more we were confident and knew this is what we wanted.

[Orro]

Thank you kindly girls ,somtimes a good cheer from a female sister is better then anything else in such matters especially.

it took me a while to return partially because i am growing my little charmo at home alone (my husband is working constantly but hopefully he will move to work from home in the last month of pregnancy so things will be easier i bet)

i do agree upon research this is what i do mostly in the last 3 months or so ,in many ways i believe completely that our body have got the needed knowledge imprinted within it ; subconsciously ,mystically call it however you want i just find most of my confidence rising up when i just look at my rounded belly in the mirror ,i was born to give birth ,i was created that way and i am so lucky to be a woman .

funny enough the only guilt i find bubbling in me from time to time has to do with the fact i can not really run jump and play with my little Charmo who is now 2 and a half years old ,this pregnancy is so easy in many ways but on the other hand it is soooo much different from the previous one (the Charmo one ..)where i was completely consumed in the process ,now Ive hardly finding time to think ...but than again thinking was never serving me much in the previous pregnancy so i guess the fact i am rushing and running all day after charmo is making me feel as if i am treating the little baby
with less caring... this raises fears too i guess pfff...i feel like im talking too much and not very focused about whatever i say...forgive me girls.

thank you again for all the support and warm words