Child saying he has talked to daddy when he hasn't

[MommytoB]

My son is going through this phase with other people.

I'm getting asked by family members have Brendan been talking to his dad .

I say No . Why ?

They say well he keeps telling me that he has talked to his daddy who is going to get him the bionicle toy at walmart for Christmas.

Then he says to them that he tells his daddy about school.

I'm like wondering why he's doing that ?

Also, we haven't seen or spoken to his father for 3 yrs and 2 months .

[kblackstone444]

Sounds like wishful thinking, on your son's part. My son used to do that- his Biological Father rarely saw him after 2 years old, saw him last, at 3 1/2 years old, but my son still sometimes told people he talked to him or saw him or whatever, until about Kindergarten.

[MommytoB]

My boy last time he saw his dad was on the week he turned 3 and now he's 6 a first grader just recently bringing this up plus he also talks about his dad to other kids!

[Minxie]

My four-year-old also does this; it's perfectly normal.

My son also tells me that he wishes Daddy lived with us, that Daddy and I married, that we lived with Daddy, etc., etc. When we have one of those conversations, I usually respond, "Well, that would be fun, wouldn't it?" Then I let it drop.

[RollerCoasterMama]

I didn't see his age...but seems pretty normal. DS is 3.5. He sees his dad regularly, but he still has a pretty active imagination about his dad, his "other dad", his "other mommy", invisible siblings, real half-siblings he's never met, and LOTS of pets. Oh, and he seems to have latched on to the idea that my dad, the resident grumpy old man, is the coolest grandpa ever that will take him to do amazing things. As for other dad and other mommy...neither of us date---it's purely fantasy. Except for warning XH when he started talking about his "new daddy" early on (who was Great-Grandpa BTW!), we just take it in stride.

I will admit, it would be a little disconcerting in your circumstances, but it does seem to be normal. DS's classmates probably think he's got a baby sister and a dog with the conviction and detail he talks about them (the reality is cats and grown-up half-brothers he's never met). He gets very involved in the fantasy and insists that it's real.