Just need some wisdom from some mamas that have been through this. My DD is learning how to use the potty. We said bye-bye to the diapers last week, and she's doing GREAT! Running to the potty to go, etc. However, it's easier at home if she goes pants free while she's learning. We have her in undies which she's able to pull down in time most of the time. 
The extra "access" though is a little disconcerting because she keeps putting her fingers on her private parts. I know that it's normal at this age. She's exploring her body, discovering her parts and how they work, etc. When she does this, I remind her gently that we don't touch our vulvas in front of other people, and she can do this in the bathtub or when she's alone. Will she just grow out of this? Anything else I can do or say that might help? Sorry if this is a weird question. I just feel kinda lost in this area because I grew up in a household that would have responded less gently, and with words that might induce a sense of shame, etc. I really really don't want her to feel badly about any parts of her body but don't know how to go about this while still instilling in her a sense of "we don't do that here." Just consistency? Am I on the right track? Anyone have any good book suggestions for this topic?
The extra "access" though is a little disconcerting because she keeps putting her fingers on her private parts. I know that it's normal at this age. She's exploring her body, discovering her parts and how they work, etc. When she does this, I remind her gently that we don't touch our vulvas in front of other people, and she can do this in the bathtub or when she's alone. Will she just grow out of this? Anything else I can do or say that might help? Sorry if this is a weird question. I just feel kinda lost in this area because I grew up in a household that would have responded less gently, and with words that might induce a sense of shame, etc. I really really don't want her to feel badly about any parts of her body but don't know how to go about this while still instilling in her a sense of "we don't do that here." Just consistency? Am I on the right track? Anyone have any good book suggestions for this topic?
Or, do you mean will she grow out of doing it in front of other people? Yes, probably -- most kids get a sense of what's socially appropriate sooner or later. Just continue with the gentle reminders and be sure to give her a little alone time sometimes.
I've said the same thing to my kids. We can touch ourselves in private, but not around other people. I also use this conversation as an opportunity to talk about other people touching our privates or bodies in ways that aren't appropriate and what to do if anyone ever tries to do that.
They give very specific, helpful feedback. 
