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need desperate help with bottle/formula please....

post #1 of 10
Thread Starter 
hello,
I will try to keep it shortish....I posted months ago with BF issues but since can't find my username.
DS was 1 in August. Normal PG/birth. 3 normal older siblings. He weighs 18 lbs, looks like he is 6 months old, and he really doesn't do anything except hold his head up and roll.
I tried my heart out to BF him but I could not get it to work and could never figure out why. He never gained any weight. He is my 4th so I felt like I kind of knew what I was doing and I did not feel that supply was an issue.
Since then, he cannot tolerate ANYTHING. I have tried: milk formula, lactose free formula, soy formula, Nutramigen, Neocate, Elecare, Weston Price goat milk formula, oat milk/carrot juice formula, cow's milk, soy milk, and I just mixed up some of the beef broth/liver but it keeps getting stuck in the nipples! All animal products caused severe constipation which Lactulose, Miralax, molasses, water, etc did not budge. The oat milk seems to be causing some kind of awful stomach upset but his poop is liquid.
He is hypotonic and has been diagnosed as legally blind with optic nerve atrophy. He has had a normal CT scan and MRI. Allergy tests all came back normal. He is very developmentally delayed. I feel it is getting worse, he is crying constantly and the past few days he won't eat more than 15-20 oz per day. He gags on solids and is now gagging on his bottles.
The pediatrician keeps telling me they are out of ideas and to call the gastro. Gastro says more tests more bloodwork. Gastro also prescribed cow's milk mixed with Nestle Carnation Breakfast for his main source of calories. (?!) I read on here about metabolic/mitochondrial which I now wonder about. I called ped and again they said call gastro. I called gastro and they said to wait for his follow up appointment which is in two weeks.
In the meantime he is screaming half the day and won't eat hardly anything. I am ready to take him to the ER. I am at the point of being beside myself. ANY ideas at all?
He is currently having PT which is helping slowly. However I feel like no one will help. We have to drive to the next town 40 miles away for any specialists or tests. I am PG again so you can imagine I am having a breakdown. Thanks so much for any help.
Amanda
post #2 of 10
I'm so sorry, mama! I wish I had some suggetions. I know you've been bouncing around this forum, but you might want to try cross posting in special needs parenting. Those awesome mama's have great advice on manage all the Dr's, and trying to get their kiddos the best care possible.

s.
post #3 of 10
oh! and if you want to try breast milk again www.milkshare.org might help you find a donor. Or your dr could prescribe breast milk from hmbana, (i think). When my son was tiny, they suggested somethign called finger feeding. I'm not sure if that something that would help your kiddo.

my heart goes out to you-- I would not be above going to the er either.
post #4 of 10
I don't have any advice but I wanted you to know I read your post and I'm thinking of you. don't blame yourself or breastfeeding for ANY of this. It really sounds like something else is going on - this isn't a supply problem or a feeding thing per se. You really sound like you need good doctor advice and I hope you can get it. It's plain to see that you are doing EVERYTHING you can for this child.
post #5 of 10
I'm sorry, I just can't get this post out of my head. You can also try posting in teh FYT section for recommendations for a really good ped or specialist. It's a long shot, but I agree with Ellien-- you need the help!
post #6 of 10
Thread Starter 
oh wow thanks so much for the quick answers. i will post in the special needs forum right away, that sounds like a good idea. and thank you for the support. I am doing everything I can of course but after a year of getting nowhere I am starting to feel a little hopeless, I have taken him to the ER before and didn't really get anywhere either but at least they could get some calories in him.
thanks,
Amanda
post #7 of 10
So sorry you're going through this.

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Originally Posted by Ellien C View Post
I don't have any advice but I wanted you to know I read your post and I'm thinking of you. don't blame yourself or breastfeeding for ANY of this. It really sounds like something else is going on - this isn't a supply problem or a feeding thing per se. You really sound like you need good doctor advice and I hope you can get it. It's plain to see that you are doing EVERYTHING you can for this child.
ITA. Sounds like something going on and the eating issue is a symptom of that. If you pump milk out, will he take that?
post #8 of 10
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Originally Posted by amndmnk View Post
and I just mixed up some of the beef broth/liver but it keeps getting stuck in the nipples!
I know there used to be bottles that had nipples with an X shape opening instead of just a hole, perhaps those would work for the broth? Or maybe taking a pin or something sharp to slightly enlarge the hole?

ETA I mean something like this or this.
post #9 of 10
dr browns also makes a y cut rice cereal nipple-- I only mention because dr browns should fit on those cheap standard bottles.
post #10 of 10
I have no advice, but I wanted to send lots of hugs to you and your DS. I hope you can find help and something that would work soon. Hopefully the mamas in the special needs forum will be able to point you in the right direction.
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