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There is a family that has been in our circle for about 7 years. Divorced parents and two boys now 14 and 16 (my ds is 14) and the younger boy and my ds play hockey and lacrosse together. The mom is super nice, is a IT professional, works from home, runs the boys around, etc. About 4 years ago the dad moved into town. He's soo the fun parent. At 50 he dresses like a teenager, likes to skateboard, hangs out with the boys instead of the parents etc. To each his own. The parents on T's teams has always wondered what he does for a living as he doesn't ever seem to work. Well, in the last 18 months or so it appears that whatever he does for money is shady. His car was impounded and by the time he figured out to call the impound lot it was too expensive to get out and he has been in jail at least 5-6 times in the last three years, twice this spring in two weeks time for assault. The older boy has been in trouble for truency, smoking mj in school, minor in posession (dad was hosting the party apparently), etc. Mom had him comitted to an inpatient facility for a couple weeks and he came out with a couple diagnosis and was doing better while on a court ordered ankle monitor. He was not allowed to be at dad's. So that's kind of the back story.
Last night I was hockey car pool mom. T is to be dropped off at Dad's house per the custody agreement (and T's wishes - if they are supposed to be at dad's they make mom's life a nightmare if she tries to get them to stay at her house). While we are on our way he tells the boys they don't have any electricity at dad's house. Because they kept the last time dad was picked up on a warrent from mom, I texted her to let her know. Well apparently the water is also turned off and there is no food in the house. I'm not really worried about the food bacause I know he's eating at school and I fed him last night. But the no electric and no water, to me is worrying.
Do I call CPS? Would they make the boys go to mom's for their safety? Or would they make mom just pay child support to dad (even when he worked he has never paid her a dime for anything, or any of the boys activities. She has always done it alone) even though they have them evenly and he chooses not to do anything as far as employment? Should I just MYOB?
When talking to my ds after we dropped everyone off he also told me that he is already smoking (and chewing) tobacco and mj and drinking to excess (I don't have an issue with a glass of wine with your parents at dinner).....
There is a family that has been in our circle for about 7 years. Divorced parents and two boys now 14 and 16 (my ds is 14) and the younger boy and my ds play hockey and lacrosse together. The mom is super nice, is a IT professional, works from home, runs the boys around, etc. About 4 years ago the dad moved into town. He's soo the fun parent. At 50 he dresses like a teenager, likes to skateboard, hangs out with the boys instead of the parents etc. To each his own. The parents on T's teams has always wondered what he does for a living as he doesn't ever seem to work. Well, in the last 18 months or so it appears that whatever he does for money is shady. His car was impounded and by the time he figured out to call the impound lot it was too expensive to get out and he has been in jail at least 5-6 times in the last three years, twice this spring in two weeks time for assault. The older boy has been in trouble for truency, smoking mj in school, minor in posession (dad was hosting the party apparently), etc. Mom had him comitted to an inpatient facility for a couple weeks and he came out with a couple diagnosis and was doing better while on a court ordered ankle monitor. He was not allowed to be at dad's. So that's kind of the back story.
Last night I was hockey car pool mom. T is to be dropped off at Dad's house per the custody agreement (and T's wishes - if they are supposed to be at dad's they make mom's life a nightmare if she tries to get them to stay at her house). While we are on our way he tells the boys they don't have any electricity at dad's house. Because they kept the last time dad was picked up on a warrent from mom, I texted her to let her know. Well apparently the water is also turned off and there is no food in the house. I'm not really worried about the food bacause I know he's eating at school and I fed him last night. But the no electric and no water, to me is worrying.
Do I call CPS? Would they make the boys go to mom's for their safety? Or would they make mom just pay child support to dad (even when he worked he has never paid her a dime for anything, or any of the boys activities. She has always done it alone) even though they have them evenly and he chooses not to do anything as far as employment? Should I just MYOB?
When talking to my ds after we dropped everyone off he also told me that he is already smoking (and chewing) tobacco and mj and drinking to excess (I don't have an issue with a glass of wine with your parents at dinner).....
