Thoughts About Leaving 15-month-old with dad for weekend?

[adamom]

My 15-month-old has never fallen asleep except next to me, was only recently nightweaned, and still wakes up several times during the night. My husband is a farmer, so I do all the nighttime parenting. At this point, I can't imagine what a night without me would be like for her. But I also wonder if leaving for a weekend would do wonders for his appreciation for the complexity of my role as mother. He is a devoted dad and takes care of our daughter in the evenings so I can work at the farm, but he still doesn't know what it's like the other 20 hours of the day. He's certain that if he were the mother, he would do a much better job. It's gotten so I avoid asking for help because of the criticism that inevitably follows. So many other moms have recommended taking a weekend off so dad can know what it's like, but I worry it would be too traumatic for my daughter, considering how much she relies on me. On the other hand, there's also the health of my marriage to consider, which certainly affects my daughter. Any thoughts, from dads as well as moms?

[lifeguard]

The first time I left ds with dh was when he was about 15 months. It went very well. I do find that the more time dh is able to spend with ds one-on-one the stronger their bond is & the more comfortable & confident we all feel with it.

[Adaline'sMama]

I say leave her there, go away for the weekend, and youll probably come home much more appreciated.

[Altair]

I would go away for a night and leave baby with dad in a heartbeat! He's a parent too. Go to a bed and breakfast where you can just relax and read.

[stik]

Go. Have a lovely time. They will too.

[Marissamom]

I would start with something shorter then the whole weekend if you're worried about it. overnight, or take a day to yourself. I think toddlers need some alone time with each parent. it builds a better bond with the parent, and gives the parent who's not usually alone with the kid better perspective.

[lookatreestar]

i personally wouldn't but dd wasn't ready to sleep over without me until just last month. each child has a different personality, some are ready sooner than others.