My 15-month-old has never fallen asleep except next to me, was only recently nightweaned, and still wakes up several times during the night. My husband is a farmer, so I do all the nighttime parenting. At this point, I can't imagine what a night without me would be like for her. But I also wonder if leaving for a weekend would do wonders for his appreciation for the complexity of my role as mother. He is a devoted dad and takes care of our daughter in the evenings so I can work at the farm, but he still doesn't know what it's like the other 20 hours of the day. He's certain that if he were the mother, he would do a much better job. It's gotten so I avoid asking for help because of the criticism that inevitably follows. So many other moms have recommended taking a weekend off so dad can know what it's like, but I worry it would be too traumatic for my daughter, considering how much she relies on me. On the other hand, there's also the health of my marriage to consider, which certainly affects my daughter. Any thoughts, from dads as well as moms?
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9/10/10 at 12:49am