30-something mamas TTC #2 or more - September - Page 3

[Marnica]

mamalove - to you. I hope you feel better soon. Your body may just need a little extra time to recup yk?

Tulpen88 - That is SOOO funny. My little guy just turned 2 on 5/1 as well!! He was born at 6:27 am on 5/1/08 after a 36 hour labor which ended much to my dismay in a c-section. My LP averages about 9 days. I was looking at FF last night and see that I have a few cycles where it has been 8, a couple where it had been 10 and 1 where it was 11.

Well I just called the reproductive endocrinologist to set up an appt to talk. I was expecting it would be a few weeks before an appt was avalaible, but they had an opening in 9/21. So I guess it won't hurt to just go have a conversation. I just feel like I know what she's going to say - take this or that drug and I really don't want to do that. Im trying to keep an open mind!

[Tulpen88]

Marnica - It won't hurt to see an RE. Maybe they'll do some more testing and it will give you some answers. I'm not keen on taking Clomid either, but if we get to the 1-year mark, I'll take it if that's what our RE thinks we should do. I prefer to keep things as natural as possible too, but I'm willing to try some meds to get pregnant. Oh, and my sonw as born at 5:35 AM on 5/1/08. Neat to know that we were in the throes of labor at the same time!

[Mama~Love]

Thanks y'all. It just feels like there's nothing to even try for, since my stupid ovaries don't know WTF to do anymore.

Also, work has been hard; that girl looks like she has a basketball under her shirt, and it's a stab in the heart knowing I should have a belly like that now too, but all I have is an empty uterus.

[milosmomma]

Hey ladies! I'm just peeking in to say Hi and see how you mamas were doing! I miss you ladies!!!!

Sending you love, kisses and fertile vibes!!!

[MichaelsSahm]

Hey everyone, I had posted my introduction here: http://www.mothering.com/discussions....php?t=1262566

My husband and I decided to TTC #2, right now I am in the O days!
I hope to get pregnant soon ofcourse. I have had baby fever for a long time now!
I keep having dreams of breastfeeding babies, I don't know what it is. haha!

[heavensearth]

slinkyfish and Mija y Mijo such awesome news!!! sending you lots of sticky vibes!!!

Mollie, s im sorry you feel that way. I know what its like, not just baby wise but because of the RA too. Hang in there, healing takes time s

Callie, I don't know what the deal with my chart is? I sent them an email.. I havent changed anything and when I log I can see it, but when I use the sharing link its blank.
Sorry about the BFN, but you're right, its early!!! for you mama!

Marnica, so awesome about your appointment! it took us 9 months to get in with our high risk obgyn who gave us our meds the first time. This time was much easier and quicker! Try to keep an open mind about the meds. In addition to the fertility meds I also take Chasteberry (vitex) and B6. My blood tests and chart showed a big improvement that my Dr and I attribute to the two of them.

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Just got in from Yo Gabba Gabba live with my little guy and im beat! Goodnight!

[myorianna]

Wow, I miss one day and so much has happened! Catching up:

Mija y mijo - Woo hoo, congrats

Callie - Good luck in testing! Any new news on the house? Just curious. I hear you about feeling you want a boy/girl - I feel that too and it keeps changing. Either way, I will be thrilled too!

EllyMay - sorry for the upcoming AF s

Marnica - sorry AF found you. It sounds like you have a good plan for next cycle - I am thinking of going to the alternative path too if this cycle passes by like the last few...

Slinkyfish - Wow, what a nice surprise! for sticky bean!

Emma - So sorry for the craziness! Deep breath- wishing you well.

JonahRoo - Yeah, my thermometer is sloooow too, so no help there. Have you thought about OPK tests to help narrow down the upcoming O day? It helps me tremendously!

Mollie - More s to you.

Serena - Yo Gabba Gabba! lol.

Welcome Ann - wishing you a short stay with us!

[heavensearth]

Just wanted to add a new link to my chart http://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/heavensearth it seems to be all good now!

[Tulpen88]

Serena - I can see it now. Your chart looks great so far! How was Yo Gabba Gabba live? We're taking DS next month and I can't wait.

myorannia - No news on the house at all. I'm giving myself a break from worrying about it this week. In true Scarlett O'Hara fashion, I'll think about that tomorrow... when tomorrow means next week.

Ann - I'm glad you joined us! Welcome! I hope your stay here is short!

Jessica - I like your new siggy... Maybe baby #3 should start with an M? Thanks for stopping by!

Mollie - I'm so sorry.

AFM - BFN this morning, then some spotting. So frustrating. I'd like to be all cheery and optimistic about it and say that maybe it's implantation spotting, but knowing my body, it's just plain old spotting and it means AF is going to show in a few days. Boo. I went out for a run this morning and it really helped with the frustration.

[JonahRoo]

Hey everyone! I have been kind of a slacker on this thread! and i barely have time to make this post. Hopefully tomorrow I will have more time. Just thought I would give a quick update....one of slight frustration.

So like I said a few posts back we DTD on CD13 and CD14. No signs of O yet and I was hoping to DTD yesterday (which didn't happen due to our crazy schedules) because my husband left to go out of town today! grief. All hope is not lost (possibly) as he comes home for one night on Monday next week. Perhaps I will catch the tail end of O.

Also I can't remember to take my morning temps to save my life! grief. I want to take temps so I can monitor temps if I conceive to see if a drop in temp occurs so I can seek out my acupuncturist for some help in keeping the pregnancy. Just scared to go through another m/c but apparently not scared enough to actually remember to take my temps!

And to all of you struggling with your cycles. i know! it's so hard when the trust we had for our bodies starts to go out the window. It's challenging to keep your chin up each month but I think it's very honorable to keep tuning into your bodies. That is how you repair and mend the relationship between mind and body. So keep showing up and keep exploring and it will pay off. It is quite the journey so I commend all of us for having the courage to do this.

And as for everyone with BFP's! Congrats! Very very exciting! Sticky vibes to all of you!!

And for all of us who have a twinge of jealousy and sadness when we see pregnant women in our immediate environments, it's okay. My best friend where I live conceived 10 days before I did last Feb and then I m/c in march and she is still preggers! grief. so happy for her but i have to diligently just not "go there" in my head about it. cause man, it will really take me for a ride and the thing is is that i really am happy for her and her family. but i definitely had to take about 2 weeks after my m/c before i could even talk to her which made me sad but whatcha gonna do?

wishing us all success on this journey whatever that may be for now.

[emski4379]

Mama~Love-(((Hugs))) I know the feeling of seeing someone preggo every day while you anxiously wait for something to happen.

Callie-It's still early right? You could still get a BFP. FX the spotting was not AF!

AFM-No flipping clue WTF is going on with my body. Temp is about even right now and nothing is happening. I haven't POAS since yesterday morning, and will only POAS tomorrow if my temp goes up. Sooooo discouraged and irritated right now!

[JonahRoo]

okay ladies quick question...

are you fertile 2 days BEFORE ewcm?

OR

does your fertile window open when you have ewcm?

I know sperm live up to 3 days in ewcm but whenwhat about when you DTD 2 days before ewcm showed up? What do you think the chances of fertility are?

In other words....my ewcm just showed up tonight (CD15) and we DTD on CD12 and CD13. am I in the window or have i missed it?

TIA!!

[Tulpen88]

Emma - Have you had really long cycles before? Based on temps alone, I would guess that you O'd on CD28. Do you know if you had any other fertile signs at that time?

JonahRoo - EWCM is the most fertile CM, but you're considered fertile with creamy CM usually. Generally speaking, the most fertile days are the few days before you ovulate and the day of ovulation (and maybe the day after, depending on when you O and how long your egg lives). I think the real chances of getting pregnant from sex on CD12 and CD13 has to do with when you O. If you O on CD14, 15 or 16, you have a better chance. You always hear stories of people getting pregnant from 1 time that was 4 or 5 days before O, but those stories are rare. I don't know if that helps you or not.

AFM - I'm probably out. My temp is waaay down. It was a sleep-deprived temp b/c I woke up at 3:30, then again at 4:30, but that usually doesn't affect my temps too much. I'm going to continue the progesterone today and see how my temp does tomorrow, but I'm guessing I'll be moving on to cycle ten soon.

[emski4379]

Callie-I have, but usually only when nursing. I can't remember the last time I wasn't nursing and had a cycle this long.

I did have some wet CM for a few days last week, but I didn't put that or the days we BD into FF since I thought I had already O'd.

[~savah~]

Originally Posted by Mama~Love

Thanks y'all. It just feels like there's nothing to even try for, since my stupid ovaries don't know WTF to do anymore.

Also, work has been hard; that girl looks like she has a basketball under her shirt, and it's a stab in the heart knowing I should have a belly like that now too, but all I have is an empty uterus.

I'm so sorry.

[JonahRoo]

thanks for your input Callie!

does anyone ever get nauseous during ovulation?

[heavensearth]

Callie, Yo Gabba Gabba live was incredible! a zillion times better than I ever thought it would be! I have a couple pictures from the evening here:
http://www.flickr.com/photos/creativemusings/
Sorry to hear about the BFN and your temps

JonahRoo, thats so hard with you BFF being pregnant! you have a great attitude though! We went for our fertility treatments to conceive our son within the same week as friends of ours and it worked for us and not for them it was so hard! but now, 9 months after DS was born they conceived through IVF! so all is forgotten.

AFM, I took a test today, it was BFN, but then later I swear I saw a second line, even held it up to the light and saw two lines and then next thing I knew a minute later it was gone. Im 9dpo today, so I know its still early... I did have a temp spike today, thats a good sign!

[myorianna]

Callie - Sorry for the spotting and temp drop...wishing you the best
Serena - Your chart looks good! I also had a temp rise today at dpo9 We should both test tomorrow morning!
JonahRoo - Hopefully you O sooner than later, then you have a better chance at catching that egg!
Emma - Still waiting to hear an happy update

AFM - I was going to wait until at least 12dpo, but I know I will whip out a stick tomorrow morning... I know there isn't much chance, but there still is a chance. I have been feeling more emotional lately.

[slinkyfish]

Hey folks,

I just had my second blood draw this afternoon, so I think I should hear from the doctor's office on Monday to see if my numbers are doubling. It's tough because everything in me wants to trust this, but quite honestly, I feel exactly the same as I ever have. In fact, I feel even less symptom-y than usual since AF isn't coming. I guess I am just hedging my bets -- this is pregnancy #5, going for baby #2...not exactly odds to take to Vegas. Still, I am exactly 4 weeks today, so I know it might be kind of early to even notice a difference.

All this to say, I am happy to be shifted over to the BFP list...but I will feel even better about it once the doctor calls next week.

And as long as i am among friends, can I have a mini-rant moment? I would think that given my history with m/c that the ob would indulge me in an early appt./scan - if nothing else just to give me a little peace of mind. (My insurance covers it). Nope. I couldn't even break though the receptionist wall to talk to the ob. For all I know, she doesn't even know I am pregnant. Ugh. I just want someone to hold my hand through this for the first few weeks.

End of rant. And lest I sound bitter, please please know that I am bursting out of my skin overjoyed by even the hope of a healthy baby. And I am holding open the door of the May DDC in case any of you scoot in there at the last minute! There's room!!!

Thanks for being such a supportive group -- this whole making babies business is not for wimps.

[heavensearth]

myorianna , did you test today? Its nice to have a cycle buddy! I was going to do it this morning, but decided I will do it tomorrow morning. FF has my test date as Monday..

slinkyfish, sending you so much love! no worries about ranting at all! I don't know anything about having a MC other than that with my first pregnancy it was very likely that I would MC for the first 4 months because of the RA (but I didn't). I believe your ob should be doing whatever it takes to ensure your little baby is healthy and safe. I had weekly appointments for the first 4.5 months! Hopefully when you get your blood test results, the ob will call you in and you can discuss all your concerns with her.

AFM: temps are still up! so happy to be making it close to Monday, as if AF goes on or after Monday we will still be able to do another round of meds, BUT im hoping that AF doesn't come at all