Originally Posted by ocelotmom
This kind of makes me wonder if you would have had such a high GPA if you hadn't been unschooled. I'm not an unschooler myself, and not trying to disregard your feelings, but I do wonder if your experience couldn't be reframed in a more positive manner.
Yes, most college students with a typical US high school education are going to have a basic grasp of world history and so forth, and will, at the very least, recognize terms like "The Middle Ages", "The Renaissance", and so forth and have a vague idea of when and what took place during those periods. However, unless they had a particular personal interest in the subject or an unusually enthusiastic teacher, chances are they're not going to know much beyond that baseline. And, because they know the bare basics, they're unlikely to even think of researching it further (or have the motivation to do so if they do think of it) and possibly discovering nuances or further historical background of relevance - something your background apparently left you willing and able to do.
This is a good point. One thing that frequently comes up in homeschool/unschool/public school/private school/alternative school dicussions is the "I did X, and had such-and-such deficiency when I switched to Y". The implication always seems to be that, had the person been doing Y all along, they wouldn't have had that deficiency, but would have still had all their strengths. There's also the "well, I discovered/became passionate about X in [fill in system/lack of system here]", with the implication that said passion would have never been discovered had they been doing Y. (I have seen this go both ways - "wouldn't have thought about this topic without such-and-such teacher" and
"would never have had the opportunity to explore such-and-such if I'd been in school". There are other variants, too.) But, this is a false argument.
I believe that, if I'd been homeschooled or unschooled, I'd have kept the love of learning that the entire school process beat out of me. I truly believe that. But, I can't say it as a fact. Maybe I would have switched off for some other reason. I also believe my social anxieties and such would be better than they are, without my public school experiences, but I could be wrong about that, too. Maybe, even without the bullying and other stuff, I'd have become just as social phobic as I have. We know what did
happen in our lives, but we don't
know what would have happened if things had been different. (I see this with birth, too. There's "such-and-such happened, and if I'd been at home, my baby would have died", but maybe such-and-such wouldn't have happened at all. There's "I had my baby at home, and thank goodness, because if I'd been at the hospital, such-and-such would have happened", but such-and-such may not
have happened - maybe you'd get the OB that every other OB there thinks is nuts, because he has a low section or induction rate.)
DD1 is later in learning to read than I expected (dh and I were both self-taught readers, and were both reading before kindergarten). It turns out she has severe astigmatisms. I knew she needed an eye exam for nearsightedness, but had no idea there were other visual issues. Part of me thinks, "if she'd been in school, they'd have caught this"...but that's not necessarily true. (I was nearsighted and couldn't see the blackboard from the back of the room and none of my teachers ever picked up on it.) Even if a teacher had told me that they thought dd1 was nearsighted, I may not have made the eye appointment any sooner than I did (lots going on with the new baby last year). Things may have been no different at all. DD1 also has perfectionism and frustration issues. Maybe a teacher could handle them better than me...and maybe a class with kids picking up reading faster than her would have made it worse. I can only deal with what is
, not with what might have been if I'd been homeschooled, or ds1 had been, or if dd1 was in public school, or Waldorf, or whatever. Weighing the advantages and disadvantages of various methods isn't the same things as thinking we know what would have been, yk?