At what age could your child consistently sing in tune? - Page 2

[mamazee]

I got 19/30 on the first, and 29/30 on the second. I am so bad at this kind of thing. I love the test, though. People are always telling me my dd has a beautiful singing voice and perfect pitch and I can't honestly tell. I will be interested in how she does.

[loraxc]

I'd encourage your husband to just enjoy his daughter's ever-so-fleeting childhood voice, and not make any premature judgments about her talents of limitations. It seems a little extreme that he worried about her being tone deaf when she can sing recognizable melodies.

ITA with you, but he seems to be kind of worked up on this subject. His family is really very, very musical and they all used to sing together all the time as kids. In fact, they appeared in musicals together a couple of times. I would like to be able to tell him that it's semi-normal at this age so he would stop making comments about it (to me only, of course). He tells me he feels like I would feel if the kids didn't like books (since I am a huge reader)--it's sad to him that she doesn't share this with him. But she LIKES music okay--again, I would say she has an average amount of interest in it.

[mamazee]

This sounds vaguely like the plot of Mr. Holland's Opus. I hope he's able to get past this expectation, because it isn't fair to expect kids to have any particular talent. Either they do or they don't, and they have no control over it. You said he's just talking to you about it so maybe he's just processing the possibility and working through things. And who knows what talents she could have. I'm sure he'd be thrilled and proud to learn she had amazing talents as far as visual arts go, or in sports, or in mathematics, or in any other area.

[loraxc]

Getting kind of OT, but:

DH is a great dad--this is one of the few times I've been bothered by an attitude/issue of his regarding the kids. She has no idea he feels this way, and yes, I think he is working it through with me, but I would kind of like to stop hearing about it, TBH, because it does make me feel like he has unfair expectations. So what if she can't sing in tune, YK? And yes, she has other wonderful talents, including a huge gift for art, which is also a gift of his. She also has a marvelous gift for animal and plant identification like DH and is a major nature-lover, just like DH. They actually have a lot in common. So I don't know why this is such a big deal.

I guess it's just that this is such a major interest of his. At heart he is a frustrated musician, I think, and he also has recently developed some kind of throat/vocal cord condition that causes HIM to be unable to sing for any period of time. So...there's a lot there, huh.

[Daffodil]

Originally Posted by loraxc

I actually gave her an online test of music discrimination. (a different one than Daffodil references above). She thought it was fun, and scored 20/30 on the tone portion and 28/30 on the rhythm section. Definitely did better on the rhythm one, but to be fair, it wasn't that easy a test for a 6yo, relying a lot on memory.

ETA that this is is the test I gave her:

http://www.delosis.com/listening/home.html

Oh, so the second part was a rhythm test! I ended up doing that one last night too, but they didn't explain what you were supposed to be listening for on the second part. I thought a bunch of them sounded like they had different rhythms, but I wasn't sure if I was supposed to be listening to that or to the tones, or if different pairs were different in different ways. Now that I know, I bet I could get a better score (I got 19/30 on the first part and 16/30 on the second part), though I suppose the fact that it wasn't obvious to me how the pairs differed indicates how bad at this I really am.