My oldest ds is almost 15 and is a freshman in high school this year. He has played football before but it was never his favorite sport, baseball was. At the end of last school year, he started going to the high school to work out in their weight room. He spent four days a week this summer going to the high school for workouts and practices, foregoing the summer camps he has attended for years. Unfortunately, he got a concussion right before their first game so he has yet to play.
I was not into sports at all as a kid. I never dated a football player or went to any games. I have never been involved in any type of organized sport or even really played any kind of pick up game. Just not my thing. My husband was a big time football star in high school, although he isn't one of those guys who ever really talks about it.
Anyways, I've seen some disturbing personality changes in my boy since he started with this football stuff. He has always been a great kid, does outstanding in school, is super smart (scored third in our state last year on the science NCLB test), always been empathetic, etc. But he has struggled with anger issues. I now see those anger issues really flaring, to the point where I feel like he is almost showing aggression to me, which is really alarming. Like one time I was standing in the kitchen and we were arguing about him doing the dishes and he kind of drew himself up in a really intimidating way and puffed out his muscles a bit. Nothing outright but more of a feeling.
My DH passes most of his behaviors off as the "football" culture of high school or teenage moodiness but I just have a feeling that there is something else going on. We've always had a pretty close relationship so I've talked with him about my concerns many times, in a very nonjudgmental way, but he shuts down instantly and just says he isn't doing anything wrong, he gets good grades, doesn't get into trouble and we need to trust him.
Any thoughts? He was in play therapy for awhile to work on anger issues when my DH and I got together because the transition was so rough on him. I've asked him if he wants to talk to anybody but he dismisses that right away.
I was not into sports at all as a kid. I never dated a football player or went to any games. I have never been involved in any type of organized sport or even really played any kind of pick up game. Just not my thing. My husband was a big time football star in high school, although he isn't one of those guys who ever really talks about it.
Anyways, I've seen some disturbing personality changes in my boy since he started with this football stuff. He has always been a great kid, does outstanding in school, is super smart (scored third in our state last year on the science NCLB test), always been empathetic, etc. But he has struggled with anger issues. I now see those anger issues really flaring, to the point where I feel like he is almost showing aggression to me, which is really alarming. Like one time I was standing in the kitchen and we were arguing about him doing the dishes and he kind of drew himself up in a really intimidating way and puffed out his muscles a bit. Nothing outright but more of a feeling.
My DH passes most of his behaviors off as the "football" culture of high school or teenage moodiness but I just have a feeling that there is something else going on. We've always had a pretty close relationship so I've talked with him about my concerns many times, in a very nonjudgmental way, but he shuts down instantly and just says he isn't doing anything wrong, he gets good grades, doesn't get into trouble and we need to trust him.
Any thoughts? He was in play therapy for awhile to work on anger issues when my DH and I got together because the transition was so rough on him. I've asked him if he wants to talk to anybody but he dismisses that right away.
. For my ds his agression on the ice/at home has actually gotten better through the years. He's played since he was 6 and his penalty minutes have really dropped. However not for the other three boys in our hockey carpool. One is definitely a "poser" he acts tough with his friends and teammates but if either of his parents give him the looks he cuts it out. The other two however are really, and I mean really giving their parents a run for their money. I would just let him know that you will allways be there if he needs to talk. I've heard some pretty scary things about football locker rooms. He may just be figuring out which side of the line he stands on.
