Ours isn't a teen yet, but we aren't sending him to middle school so we're committed for at least a few years.. Our ds will turn 11 this fall. He was in PS until he started having problems that were not addressable at school. We already planned to HS middle school and onward because we saw that he was not going to function at that level and that bullying would be worse. That would be next year, but we pulled him out last year due to problems. Our 15yo also homeschools and has several years, while we have two in PS for this year. We thought the school would have free services that would help him as of four years ago, and for a while he was functioning well in school and happy, but it started to take a stress toll on him and the expectations became too much. The services available weren't a good fit.
Anyhow, it is interesting. Ds still has this milling around tendency, bouncing aimlessly around the house messing with things. He works slowly and needs a lot of help following through. But he is totally on with a few things. It hasn't changed much over the years for us either. He's an awful lot like he was five years ago YK. Very smart, picks things up and figures them out, but drifty and also prone to staying in ruts.
I wanted to send you some supportive thoughts and say hello because I am thankful that you are here and asked about this.
