Originally Posted by prettypixels
I know, I cannot believe it. They really are kids now, not babies anymore.
I guess I just don't understand why things are moving so slowly. Not all of the children are new, so some of them already know the drill. Thus far it seems they are not allowed to talk to each other much. Maybe this teacher is particularly strict or something? I don't know. She told me in a note that Bella does not seem bored, but... wait, I'll cut and paste this bit:
"Right now, the children are just getting used to the routine and our expectations, so I haven't given many lessons, and those I have given are very basic. *If Bella is bored, you wouldn't know it to see her. *She doesn't choose particularly challenging work, but what she does choose, she executes well and shows good focus and concentration. *Now that I know she's 'bored' I'll see if we can't *encourage her to raise the bar somewhat."
How can she choose challenging work when she is not allowed to touch things? Like 95% of the room she is not allowed to touch at all.
Plus yesterday after school, Bella told me... "Oh, Mommy! Teacher told me to tell you that school is not boring! School is fun!" She told me all excited, but then I guess by my reaction she could tell that was not quite the way she was meant to relay that message. This has me insanely upset. I don't like the idea of a teacher telling her to tell me... ANYthing. If the teacher wants to talk to me, she can, directly. Would that freak you out or am I overreacting?
I think it's important to stay tuned in to get a good feel on the place as you go. Not every Montessori is great, or a great fit. I think the teacher sounds responsive to your concerns, but definitely listen to your daughter and your intuition.
At the same time here's my perspective on the issue of boredom.
One of the reasons we didn't choose a play-based preschool was in ALL the ones I toured the adults were spending a good portion of the day getting the kids excited. "Wow, NOW we're going to be BUNNIES! HOP HOP HOP." Even where the kids chose their own play a lot of the time, there was still a lot of the day devoted to what I would characterize as "revving the kids up."
And you know, that's fun and all. It's just that for me, I wanted something that was a little more still and (to my mind) respectful.
So, enter Montessori. It kind of is boring at the start, especially if the child is used to a style where the adults talk in high-pitched "HAPPY NOW" voices and create "fun and interesting and exciting" activities. Note the quotes, because my personal opinion is that the kids then learn to look the adults for what's fun and what's not-fun.
For me the adjustment to Montessori seems a lot about how homeschoolers often talk about "de-schooling." Kids who are used to taking a lot of cues from the adults or excitement of group activities may be 'bored.'
But for me, while I'd be really upset if my child were permanently
bored, a little bit of boredom -- meaning not getting external excitement -- is a good thing. That's what gets the inner self searching for what's really meaningful to that child, if that makes sense? There is a gap between when the external cues are removed and when the internal cues come into play.
For the works and not touching them...yeah I don't know that in my son's school they can't touch them but they are directed to the ones at the right level, and they do need to be presented. The first week or two, there's a bit of a drag, although in his particular school they have other things to do at the same time. My son's school sometimes resolves that by having the older children come to help with presenting to the younger ones.
I don't have a problem with some things waiting. The sense of satisfaction that kicks in on the child's side when a child moves on to that is huge. It obviously has to be done really well - the teacher has to be very tuned in - but man, it's really amazing. I hear that for your daughter though, it might be a big deal to her right now. I think helping her talk to the teacher about that would be really good (as you have been).
Our school's really good at social stuff, so no thoughts there really.
I think what I'm trying to say is that in our Montessori, anyway, although the staff want all the kids to be engaged and excited, they have a lot of patience in making sure that is coming from the child, and the first weeks seem slow to those of us who are more used to school starting with a bang. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't continue to ask questions about anything that concerns you.