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post #1 of 22
3/20/04 at 11:20pm
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I am not sure where to post this but wanted to share what happened at my playgroup today and see what you ladies thought.

I belong to a great playgroup, very supportive and open to everyones parenting philosophies.
Well today one of our moms who for a short version on a long story is not able to breastfeed( really, not just an excuse for not wanting to.) Well this mom in her rush today trying to get her 2 year old ds and 4 month old ds out of a home that is in the middle of a move forgot the babies bottle. Well one of our breastfeeding moms( a good friend of ours) was holding the hungry baby while the mom was getting her things together, the baby was sucking on this friends arm. The friend commented on it and the mom said " I know he would have been a great nursing baby." the friend then says "Well T, I could try and nurse him for you so you and your ds can stay at playgroup longer." Mom says "Give it a try." and she does. The baby just latched right on no promblem, after he was done he just looked at this friend with this look of awe and wow!:LOL I said after all that. "Well now our playgroup is just a little closer.":LOL

So curious as to what you all thought and would you offer your services like that to a friend? Let me add that these 2 moms have known each other for a while, their husbands worked together they vacation together and their older ds's play together. So it was just not an acquantaince.
post #2 of 22
3/20/04 at 11:33pm

Re: Interesting BFing experience

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Originally posted by mojomom
not able to breastfeed( really, not just an excuse for not wanting to.) Well this mom in her rush today trying to get her 2 year old ds and 4 month old ds out of a home that is in the middle of a move forgot the babies bottle. Well one of our breastfeeding moms( a good friend of ours) was holding the hungry baby while the mom was getting her things together, the baby was sucking on this friends arm. The friend commented on it and the mom said " I know he would have been a great nursing baby." the friend then says "Well T, I could try and nurse him for you so you and your ds can stay at playgroup longer." Mom says "Give it a try." and she does. The baby just latched right on no promblem, after he was done he just looked at this friend with this look of awe and wow!:LOL I said after all that. "Well now our playgroup is just a little closer.":LOL

So curious as to what you all thought and would you offer your services like that to a friend? Let me add that these 2 moms have known each other for a while, their husbands worked together they vacation together and their older ds's play together. So it was just not an acquantaince.
in this situation, i woulda lifted my shirt in a heartbeat. no problem.
post #3 of 22
3/21/04 at 12:04am
Without a moment's hesitation.

In fact I did offer to share this way with a friend whose son is a bit younger than ours. She, and her husband, expressed appreciation for the offer and that she would not mind at all. As it happened though the need never arose.
post #4 of 22
3/21/04 at 12:30am
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post #5 of 22
3/21/04 at 12:38am
to your friend for letting someone else nurse her babe! That's great. For a FF mom to be that receptive is really refreshing!
post #6 of 22
3/21/04 at 1:10am
whoa! that is so amazing... that the mom was open to it and all.
gosh i just have to wonder why she cant-- Medical reasons??
that is just the greatest
Thanks for sharing.
Laura
post #7 of 22
3/21/04 at 1:14am
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Originally posted by RachelGS
to your friend for letting someone else nurse her babe! That's great. For a FF mom to be that receptive is really refreshing!
That is actually how me and my friends felt. We were more proud of the mom letting someone else nurse her baby and being sooo okay with it. It really was a moment and I was so proud of the both of them and for the other moms for being supportive. In fact we met for playgroup at a public area and other mms who were not part of our group were there. One mom commented on how great she thought that was and told us of an experience with friends where the mother died after childbirth and a friend stepped in and nursed this chid and her own.

We joke also because one of the moms in our group is always commenting on how she wishes wet nurses were still around because she would love to hire out her services:LOL

ETA: The reason explained to me why she cant nurse is she has a SEVERE case of inverted nipple her midwife and lactation consultant both said it was the most severe case they had seen in there 30 tears of service. She says that you can barely even see her nipples. The L.C. told her she could work very hard at nursing but she would always have to suppliment and it would take alot of time and work to get him latche don to HER breasts. She decided not to, she tried with her first before anyone told her what the promblem was and her son got very sick and was a failure to thrive and was in the hospital. I think that experience on top of it all was just to much. I should add with her first born she pumped for 6 months.
post #8 of 22
3/21/04 at 1:27pm
Thats very cool indeed! I had a friend staying with our family when she had her second ds (I was pg @ the time too) and she couldn't bf (she had a breast reduction at age 16) and she was really upset. I told her that it was a pity that my ds wasnt born yet coz then I would be able to express for her! She thought it was a cool iea and said she would've done it in a heartbeat.

post #9 of 22
3/21/04 at 2:16pm
I think its great if both are cool with it.
If I couldn't breastfeed I'd be jealous though. Yet, I'd be happy that my bb got that good milk, even just that once.
post #10 of 22
3/21/04 at 5:36pm
I too would have done it without hesitation. I have told my dh that if anything were to happen to me and I wasn't able to nurse my girls that he is to find a lactating woman who is willing to nurse my girls. I gave him a whole list of friends of mine who are currently nursing their little ones and who would be willing to nurse my girls in an emergency. It's so cool to have a network like that among friends!!
post #11 of 22
3/21/04 at 9:08pm
I was there that wonderful playgroup day. and when T told me she had to leave because she forgot the bottle I thought about offering to nurse the baby but was unsure about how T would feel. I was so psyched that S nursed him and T was okay with it.

I too would love to be a wet nurse. I actually thought about pumping and donating my milk to a milk bank but had such a hard time finding one.
post #12 of 22
3/21/04 at 9:43pm
With baby #2, I pumped for an adopting mom and had a friend I did daycare for that if her babay wouldn't take the bottle of expressed milk I would nurse her. Never needed to. I have thought for this baby #3 of loaning her out at births to get contractions going in a laboring mom if need me (doula, apprentice midwife ) A baby is supposed to be better at producing oxytocin that any other nipple stim. WHo knows if it would ever be needed, but I'd be willing either way.
post #13 of 22
3/21/04 at 10:20pm
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Hey K, nice to see U. How is J, M, and T:LOL

Hey you coulda tandem nursed Micha and Morgan at playgroup.:LOL
post #14 of 22
3/22/04 at 12:17am
Okay V, T, M, & J are good. I am fine too. :LOL

I posted a Bf'ing question and saw this one so I thought I'd chime in.
Wouldn't that be a site? Tandem nursing Micah and Morgan at play group!
post #15 of 22
3/22/04 at 12:22am
What a beautiful story - it actually brought happy tears to my eyes! I'd nurse a friend's baby in a heartbeat if needed!
post #16 of 22
3/22/04 at 2:09am
If it was the situation that you described, with others around I think I would be like your other friend and think it in my head but not offer vocally. I guess I'd be scared that my friend would've thought I was crazy. But I would gladly BF a friend's baby if they were cool about it. Yea for your friends!
post #17 of 22
3/22/04 at 4:55am
I offered my milk (and my time) to a friend and she refused. Then again, I make enough for twins!

Those children are now milk-siblings.
post #18 of 22
3/22/04 at 1:09pm
When my friend was sick and couldn't nurse her babe for 2 days because she was in hospital, she told me later she thought of calling me to see if I could nurse her dd for her. I told her I would have done that no problem, and she said she thought so cuz she'd feel fine doing that for my ds too but she just hesitated since she'd never talked to me about it before. I said if she ever needed to again, she'd better call me!

It seems like we worried about what the other would think when really we were both fine with the idea. Silly us!
post #19 of 22
3/22/04 at 5:22pm
i would and in fact, was in a situation where it would have come in handy. when my husband left me, an old friend moved in. we were both about 9 or 10 wks pg, babies were 17 days apart. we are both crazily staunch nursers, and i mentioned how we should find a job we could share, and nurse for each other, but she thought it was disgusting. people and their stupid hang-ups!!!
post #20 of 22
3/24/04 at 2:11am
I nursed my friend's infant for three days - baby was very jaundiced and the hospital docs wanted her to supplement w/AM. She called me instead and I moved in for a while and nursed her babe until her milk came in (the mommy was also nursing her of course, she just needed more...). My son was 16 months old at the time, and was basically unfazed.

I've told this story at MDC before, but I retell when I can because I think we ALL feel a little closer thinking that most of the bfing moms we know would probably WANT do that for us in a pinch, even if we feel funny asking (or offering)...

How cool that a mom using AM would be totally unthreatened by another mom bfing her child.
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