if you know what hospital you will be using, call them now and simply tell them that you will be delivering in january and that you want to make sure your son is not circumcised. what do you need to do to make sure that doesn't happen? write down their answers. they will probably direct your phone call to the L&D floor. you will probably talk with one of the nurses. be very calm and simply inquisitive. you want to gather all of the information you can about their procedures.
when i did this, i was told that without the mother's signature, a circumcision would never happen.
are you planning to get to the hospital at the beginning of your labor, or will you wait until you are very far along? the difference is, if you are merely contracting on a regular basis, you are probably OK to review and sign forms, but if you are, say, 7 cm dialiated(sp) already, AND ALONE, things can get dicey.
can you get a good friend to come with you and be your advocate? maybe your ex-husband even? ask him to look over all of the forms before you sign. but writing no circumcision on every form should also suffice. in most cases, it would be "overkill," but, sadly, it still seems kinda necessary since "accidents happen."
also, go on the hospital tour NOW and find out for sure if they room in or if you have that option. let's hope that you do!!
in any case, you should gather all the facts now, well ahead of time, so that you can make an iron clad plan.
as for me, i had an uncomplicated natural delivery. my husband was there, and he acquested (sp) to leaving our son intact, although he probably would have wanted a circumcision. i did NOT in any way count on him to be my advocate or "guard" our son. i took on that responsibility myself, since, i figured, the buck stopped with me, and i'm the one who would be feeling awful forever more if something tragic did accidently happen.
oh -- also tell your OB or midwife NOW that you do not want him circumcised, and ask them to mark your file as "do not circumcise." it is usually the OBs who actually perform the circumcisions in hospitals.
however, be prepared that a cut-happy OB may be at your bedside at 7 am after a 1 am delivery, asking if he can circumcise your son. (that's what happened to me.) keep it running through your head, "no circumcision," so even if you are "out of it," you will state it. [doctors make their "rounds" at 7 am typically -- figure on the morning after your delivery, someone who can/wants to circumcise (ie., a circumciser) darkening your door at the crack of dawn. be PREPARED for this and not caught off guard.)
oh, and stay off the narcotics they offer once your delivery is done. i did take the motrin -- but i said NO to the ambien to make me sleep and the whatever-it-was narcotic for pain.
like others said, be prepared for a couple days of hardship following your delivery. if your hospital is like mine, you will have a cleaning person coming in to change the trash, change your towels, change your sheets at all hours of the night. you will have nurses take your vitals, take your baby's temperature, once every shift, etc. etc. it's basically a non-stop parade of intrusion coming through your door.
keep that baby close to you, nurse on demand, sleep topless so he latches right on and keep him latched as much as possible. this also serves to protect his whole-ness. when he's right there, snuggled under your armpit with your arm stretched across the top of his head, he's SAFE.
be prepared that they will want to do a 3 am weight check, or do the hearing test at midnight, or a heel prick at 6 am. seriously. they live in their own little world on a baby delivery ward. grab your naps when you can -- but don't expect to sleep a solid 8 hours or anything.
get your rest before you deliver so you can save your energy for after the baby is born. make sure you have plenty to eat so you can stay on guard.
oh, and don't forget, tell all of the nurses who enter your room that you don't want him circumcised, and ask each of them, what do you need to do to make sure it doesn't happen. they will all talk about you back at the nursing station, and think you're a nut for repeating it so much... but none of them will be able to say "i didn't know" and so what if they don't like you -- you're there for two days at the most, and then your son has the rest of his life to enjoy his foreskin!
oh, and if everything goes well, and you are recovering well and the baby is totally fine, ask if you can go home early. in my case, we had to stay 2.5 days because the baby had jaundice, and i elected to give him the bili lights rather than formula. but if it hadn't been for that, i would have totally been out of there after one day, the soonest as possible.
believe you me, you will get way more rest at home than you ever will in a hospital. (reference aforementioned cleaning crews, nurses, doctors, etc. etc.)