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post #21 of 30
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Originally Posted by SleeplessMommy View Post
Interestingly, we were offered the hep B shot just once, but the circ 5 or 6 times.
I doubt the Dr gets to submit an extra bill for giving a hep b shot, but he certainly can bill a circ separately.
post #22 of 30
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Originally Posted by SleeplessMommy View Post
Interestingly, we were offered the hep B shot just once, but the circ 5 or 6 times.
That's because you son's penis came with a $300 coupon on it.
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post #24 of 30
Buy 4-6 cheap white newborn onesies or tees and write "if you circ my mom will sue!" on them. Print off a ton of white sticky labels with DO NOT RETRACT OR CIRCUMCISE THIS PENIS on them and use them to stick over diaper velcro or poppers if you're CDing. Print off 10 or so A4 sheets with DO NOT CIRCUMCISE in the biggest font that will fit and stick them on the room door, the bed ends, the cot, the cupboard and put one on the front of the notes. Start telling every member of staff you encounter from now on that you don't consent to circumcision, keep telling everyone, through labour and beyond. Keep your baby with you at all times. I'm in the UK - we don't circ but in most hospitals we keep mums and babes together, there is nothing they can't do with you there. Here the shots, hearing test, newborn exams and anything else are done with the parents there. The only time they separate is if mom or baby is sick and have to have medical treatment like NICU. SO whatever they tell you, there is NO reason baby can't have all his exams and stuff done with you or your partner right there.
post #25 of 30
I read on another forum that many moms had close calls with the hearing test, apparently the two are often paired. One even said her son was taken, naked, on the table and pooped on himself, requiring that they clean him up, and FINALLY someone noticed the "NO CIRC" written all over the place. Another really was circ'd (after the hearing test) despite the mother telling the nurses they were undecided and no consent being signed. So make them do the hearing test in the room, or go with him!
post #26 of 30
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Originally Posted by myfairbabies View Post
I read on another forum that many moms had close calls with the hearing test, apparently the two are often paired. One even said her son was taken, naked, on the table and pooped on himself, requiring that they clean him up, and FINALLY someone noticed the "NO CIRC" written all over the place. Another really was circ'd (after the hearing test) despite the mother telling the nurses they were undecided and no consent being signed. So make them do the hearing test in the room, or go with him!
And what in the world would the connection be between someone's ears and their penis?!?!?!?!?!
post #27 of 30
I wonder if you can ask for a blank hospital bracelet and write "DO NOT CIRC" on it with a permanent marker? Put that on his ankle or wrist, and that way you don't have to write on the baby or buy a onesie. Plus if he is stripped naked for any reason, the bracelet would still be on him.
post #28 of 30
1. The plain white onesie and sharpie marker is a cheap way, simply write NO CIRC in giant letters.

2. I printed out signs for the door of my room, the wall of my room, the baby's bassinet, and I asked that a copy be put as the first page in our chart.

3. I told everyone who entered my room that he was not to be circ'd. (well, I might not have told the janitor or the food service people, but everybody else!)

4. Whenever possible, don't let baby leave your side. You can decline any middle-of-the-night tests (even weighings, hearing tests, and heel pricks can be declined) Simply say "we are resting now, please come back later" over and over. I had a few nurses mad at me, saying that they "had" to get a weight (or a blood sugar, or a hemoglobin, or something!) at midnight because that's when it was "due". I said "write mother refused on the chart and come back in the morning" They'd have to get the dr (OB or Ped) to argue, and they almost certainly won't call one in the middle of the night for that reason.

5. ALL tests can be done in your room, despite what they might say. Even the hearing test. Even the bath. Even the newborn screen. Even the discharge exam. EVERYTHING. Insist on it. Simply say "I insist that baby remain in the room" over and over. If you feel like it is getting heated and you need a compromise, offer to accompany baby to the testing room, but make it clear that you WILL remain physically touching the baby at all times.

Don't worry about garnering a reputation as a difficult mom, frankly they will be more careful with you and more quick to discharge you if you bug them. No doubt the nurses will call you the "freak" mom or something like that, they will be very careful not to do anything wrong, and they'll want you off their load quickly.

And you'll leave with a perfect, intact, son
post #29 of 30
I worry about this too since circ seems to be a given where I am. Im not sure of the gender of the baby Im having (maybe Ill be saved the grief of the fight and it will be another girl) but Im already making plans for if its a boy.
If there no complications (my second was in the NICU) then its easy, either my husband or I will be at every exam/weight/test whatever with the baby. Im going to make a sign to put on his bassinet with the words "No Circ, Im breastfed no bottles/pacis" since they like to sneak bottles and pacis to the baby as well. In the NICU each baby has a chart in a binder with a clear front, Im going to ask (well insist) that the nurse put a paper in it that says NO CIRC on it and then put on one the bassinet as well.
Also, def don't sign anything and talk to your DH/anyone else they might come to forconsent about it to. Decide that ONE of you will sign things and the other will tell them talk to the first. This way they don't try to play one had against the other "Oh your wife already said it was ok but forgot to sign" they did this at the NICU with the Hep B shot and my second daughter.
post #30 of 30
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The most surefire way is to birth at home or at a birth center that does not perform circ at all.
Not terribly helpful, given the OP's circumstances.
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