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post #41 of 46
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Originally Posted by Marsupialmom View Post
So yes, I do worry about the people that are hurt not only about the abuse but over zealous actions.
Just a random story: I personally know a guy that went through hell (even spent time in jail) because after a good/bad touch lesson his son reported him for touching...nothing had actually happened. The kid was mad because his dad had grounded him and was using a normal bath as revenge. So yeah, I'm hesitant to tell the OP to go immediately to CPS.
post #42 of 46
If you do try to talk to her, stick to the facts and only ask what happened? when did it happen? who did it? Where did it happen? Any more than that and it could be considered 'tainted evidence' and make it not be investigated properly. If there is still enough reason for you to suspect, call and report those 4 things only.
post #43 of 46
Um, I think that I gathered from a previous post that the children in question are hispanic. Coming from a hispanic background myself I find it a rather harsh statement to suggest that this culture would consider sexual abuse as acceptable. Though there are hispanics who have been abused; I believe that this can be said across the board about every culture. If anything I have seen hispanic mothers be very protective about their children...that is actually a cultural thing because they invest a lot into motherhood for various reasons. In my view the OP should not call CPS until she knows definitively something is happening. Also if there is discomfort associated with them being overly " Touchy, feely" then there are ways to alleviate that without making the children feel as if there is something wrong with them for their touchy, feeliness or something wrong with their family for the way that they show affection ( unless of course their is something going on that is abusive in nature.)
post #44 of 46
Was there any comment prior to this where you acknowledged that she was respecting your wishes by not kissing the baby? It could be she was trying to relate to you on that issue.
post #45 of 46
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Was there any comment prior to this where you acknowledged that she was respecting your wishes by not kissing the baby? It could be she was trying to relate to you on that issue.
Could be, but her sister has been more of the "kisser" whereas she has been more of the "grab the baby out of my arms" type.
post #46 of 46
I wouldn't call yet- for sure. For all you know these kids have a wonderful home with a mother and family who is crazy about them and you could screw them up for years by reporting something like this when you are not sure. I would try to do a little research into before doing anything because if it turns out not to be abuse it would be a terriblt thing to put these people through
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