already 2 & 1/2-really need to wait for all the "signs" he's ready for potty training?

[elizaMM]

I was pretty convinced by all the criticism of T Berry Brazelton and delayed potty training. But I didn't get a chance to start in on it until after the "no"s became really incessant.

So does that mean I missed the boat?

Do I really need to wait until he displays all the "signs" that he is ready?

I think he's got all of them except the interest. Whenever I mention it he says "no". We've switched (back) to cloth diapers and the wet dipes don't seem to bother him a smidge.

Should I just ramp up the enthusiasm and dive in?

Or wait until he is 3 years and 3 months and finally self-motivated? Thx!!!!

[taramoon13]

give it a good, gentle try & if he keeps saying "no" then wait a couple weeks and try again. that's what happened with ds, second time around was a winner, he really got the hang of it right away. i don't necessarily think they are always going to show "all signs" and sometimes a gentle push can get them going. good luck and like i said don't be discouraged if they're not into it first time around.

[redvlagrl]

We just did Lori Jensen's 3 day potty training thing with our 23 mth old and I have to say it worked wonderfully (pees took 3-4 days, poos 8-9) and now we are fully trained both days and nights. No accidents during the day, occasional ones at night which are usually our fault (slow in reponding to call, too much liquid right before bed).

It's a fairly gentle method and I would recommend it. DD couldn't have cared less about wet/dirty diapers before. BUT you do have to be dedicated.

I think now would be fine and I would totally go this way rather than a more conventional, training pant etc method (these seem to take months). PM me if you want more info.

[The4OfUs]

eh, I just waited. DS was 2 weeks before he turned 3, DD was about a month after she turned 3. To me, I'd rather change diapers for an extra 6 months than have to watch the clock and follow my kid around catching pee and poop, that always felt more like training me than the kid . DS trained in 3 days' time, pee and poop, day and night because he was totally ready and all I had to do was remind him *when* he had to pee or poop, *where* it went (I didn't do timed potty trips, etc. Just reminded him abotu once an hour the first day, once every couple hours on the second day, and he was on his own by the third day). DD was a little more tricky but that was due to her personality more than anything, and it was a couple weeks for her to be dry during the daytime on her own, and nighttime wasn't until she was 4.

[operamommy]

My own experience as the mom of 4 kiddos has shown me that usually waiting till they're ready makes for a much for pleasant experience for all involved.

btw my 2.5 year old has no interest at all right now. That's ok - he'll probably go the way of my 4-year-old, who emphatically refused to try the potty when he was 2 but instead told me he'd use it when he was 3. The day after his 3rd birthday he completely "trained" himself.

[elizaMM]

Hmmmm, how much doess the Lori Jensen deal cost? Don't suppose you want to give me the gist? :-)

[broodymama]

DS1 was 3.5 before he was ready, I started with DD1 a bit earlier. Now DD2 is almost 26 months and refused to keep diapers on. At best she strips them off and puts them in the diaper pail, at worst she hides them or throws them away. I've decided to go ahead and give a gentle push, she's obviously done with wearing diapers but just needs some help in figuring out the whole potty thing. (Sit on the potty and then pee, don't pee on the floor and put the potty on top of it.)

[CrunchyChristianMama]

Originally Posted by elizaMM

Hmmmm, how much doess the Lori Jensen deal cost? Don't suppose you want to give me the gist? :-)

It's a free e-book you can download. It worked for our DD too, although it took her a few weeks. We still have accidents, but they are all intentional when she is upset about the new baby getting attention. If you PM me your email address, I can send you a copy.

[JudiAU]

I really like Diaper Free Before 3. It a more scheduled approach to potty learning but there is no stress/punishment/ etc. You were probably trained by 2 as were most of the people on this board. LO is probably more than ready to go. We found it helpful to switch to bulky training pants too.

In my experience, it is actually a lot easier to train earlier. The folks in our group who didn't start until close to 3 are still in pullups for a long, long time.

[missnoodlesmom]

We trained our 24 month old son on the 3 day training method (except that I wasn't doing the night-time training stuff) - and he was pee trained in 36 hours, and poop trained in 2 weeks (we were on vacation for a week in there so it kind of screwed up the poop thing). He's 28 months now and has no accidents, even at night or nap.

Honestly, he didn't show any signs. I tried it because my DD had been PTed by 2 and he was responsive. Before I put him in undies, I don't recall him ever actually producing on the potty. It was somewhat a leap of faith, but it went well and I'm thrilled to have NO kids in dipes. I kept it really positive and I was super diligent. To be honest, I felt like I was going out of my mind staying home for a week straight but it all payed off.

Good luck!

[swd12422]

If you don't want to wait, maybe you could try having him going naked while at home. Just keep the potty close at hand and yeah, you have to try to "catch" him going, but that might help him make the connection to the feeling of going and getting on the potty. If he still isn't any more interested after a day or two, just let it go and wait til he's ready.

My son was "interested" in the potty, but when I asked if he wanted to use it, he always said no. I got him interested in "big boy underwear" instead, and that was his motivator. (He also liked being naked and seeing the pee come out...)

[butterfly_mommy]

Originally Posted by JudiAU

I really like Diaper Free Before 3. It a more scheduled approach to potty learning but there is no stress/punishment/ etc. You were probably trained by 2 as were most of the people on this board. LO is probably more than ready to go. We found it helpful to switch to bulky training pants too.

In my experience, it is actually a lot easier to train earlier. The folks in our group who didn't start until close to 3 are still in pullups for a long, long time.

I was going to wait till DS "showed signs" but after reading Diaper Free before 3 i realized that I had fallen for the diaper producers trap! This was reinforced when i went to buy cotton training pants for DS a a big chain store only to have the employee lead me to the disposable pull ups AISLE!!!! Then she said "I have never heard of that" when I said no cloth training pants - washable!

Anyway DS was not showing any signs of "readiness" he was about 26 mons and I took him out of diapers (cloth) during the day and put him in lose pants and just naked in the house. The first 2 days were really really messy. Once DS figured out that he could control his pee and poo he was good to go! It only took about a week or so for him to not really have accidents as long as I made sure to get him on the potty every few hours. He only had one poo accident out of the house before he got that and hasn't had a poo accident in over 5 mons and he very very rarely has a pee accident now (it's been a good 3 mons) DS still has a hard time pulling down his pants and pulling them up so someone has to help him.

Oh and I ended up ordering Scotty Potty training pants online!