"Suck it up cryer!" - Page 2

[Mammajamma]

What a sweet little girl to still say " Thank you mommy for taking me out of that" even after her mother terrorized her in the scary halloween section!

[Latte Mama]

Originally Posted by Mammajamma

What a sweet little girl to still say " Thank you mommy for taking me out of that" even after her mother terrorized her in the scary halloween section!

That is the part that tugged at my heart. What a sweety!

[PirateMommy]

I find myself uncustomarily at a loss for the right words. That was so heartbreaking. It's moments like that, however, that hopefully reorient the rest of us. Seeing it from the outside, we can see how awful it really was for that poor little girl, and we can strive to remember stuff like that when we might be toeing the line.

[phathui5]

The word "evil" is getting tossed around a lot here, but maybe the mom just didn't want her kid to be scared of the decorations.

[Norasmomma]

For me the part that breaks my heart is the "thank you mommy"-it makes me so sad

[rhiOrion]

You know, my dad was totally the type to purposefully scare us. He'd chase us with a roach (me, since they were/are my fear) or frogs (my mom and/or sister, since that is theirs). Try to convince me the other side of the bridge was missing. He'd have totally done that in the store.

And you know what? My dad is awesome. He just happened to not GET that concept. If it didn't scare him then he didn't see how it should scare us. Sort of the same way that people always try to rationalize to people who are phobic of flying. He just honestly didn't get it.

He is still a great dad. Loved/loves his kids more than life itself. Would never do anything to intentionally actually harm us.

He was just clueless, not ill-intentioned.

[Tway]

Originally Posted by rhiOrion

You know, my dad was totally the type to purposefully scare us. He'd chase us with a roach (me, since they were/are my fear) or frogs (my mom and/or sister, since that is theirs). Try to convince me the other side of the bridge was missing. He'd have totally done that in the store.

My Dad was like that, too. Let us watch scary movies and then we couldn't sleep. Scare us with a Hallowe'en mask when we were playing with friends. Tell us we were lost if we went for a walk. Inform us we were only having cucumber sandwiches for supper from now on. Anything to get a rise out of us--cause he loved it. And he loved us. We know it without a doubt, even to this day.

But if he made us cry, when he'd gone too far, we'd get a hug and a kiss and a "Daddy's sorry." He never would have told us to "suck it up". I guess that's the difference, in this case.

[Dr.Worm]

Children are not respected or heard. If they have a fear they are crybabies; if they cry they are given something to cry about. It's really sad. At what age does a person get permission to have emotions...over 18? Things like that just prove AP is the right way to parent.

[abeliamama]

A similar thing happened to me this summer.

We were at a water park and these two women were in front of us in line to go on a big slide. They had a teenager and two younger kids, maybe 5 and 6. The two younger ones were crying and begging not to have to go on the slide. My husband and I were getting more and more upset watching this and discussing whether we should say something. Then it started lightening and thundering and everyone had to leave. We had been waiting for 20 minutes and my kids were a little upset, but we were sooo glad for those kids. They had been truly distressed.

There were two adults so one could have easily waited at the bottom with the kids. I bet the adults think it "builds character" or something to overcome your fears. That's all I can think of.

My son was scared of Halloween stores until this year. He is seven. I did have to run in and grab something one time but I carried him and he kept his eyes closed. He agreed to that. He is also still scared of a giant stuffed real moose in a local restaurant.

I just don't se how someone can think forcing a kid to be scared and suck it up will make them overcome the fear, It will most likely just make the fear more prominent, whereas they would have probably overcome it on their own, at their own pace, eventually.