When did the tantruming begin?

[shnitzel]

DD is 15 months and in full blown tantrum mode.
The moment she does not get her way she is laying on the ground kicking screaming and wailing. I have to try not to laugh because it is a picture perfect tantrum, as though she googled how to have a temper tantrum. Today she took one on the sidewalk because I would not sit in her doll stroller while she pushed me. I guess her spatial skills aren't great yet.
She started at 12 months tantruming when tired but it is only recently that we have tantrums over everything multiple times a day. It seems a bit early, aren't the terrible 2's supposed to begin 9 months from now?

When did your toddler start temper tantrums?

[Mal85]

She was about the same age. It's been a fun summer. Is she talking yet? DD's tantrums were really bad right before she started talking more. She was so frustrated when she couldn't tell me what she wanted, what was wrong, etc. She really started picking up words just a few weeks ago and it's helped a ton. We still get tantrums, but instead of several times a day, it's once or twice a day.

[spmamma]

DD was about that age when she started to tantrum. DS is only 10.5 MO and has been having mini tantrums for about a month now.

I've always maintained that anyone who tells you the tantrums start at two is a liar.

[ellemenope]

Wow. DD is just now starting to throw tantrums at 26 months...I think.

She is doing this thing where she makes her face get red and holds up her fists and yells something like "I.just.want.to.climb.up.there.and.see.people! " And, the last word is always like 20 seconds long.

And, to be honest, she tantrums over the most bizarre things. The above is a real thing she said because she wanted to stop at a balcony, climb up it a ways, and look down at people walking.

I dunno. Maybe I don;t know what a tantrum is. She has certainly never cried hysterically over not being able to do something, stomped her feet, fell on the floor, kicked her legs, etc.

[elizaMM]

My son was about 13 months old when he started diving to the floor in despair.

[Abraisme]

My DD is 13mo and has recently started the mini tantrums. As of now they don't last for more than 1-2 minutes, but it's definitely when something doesn't go HER way. Hopefully she'll start talking more soon and that will help.. Although, she's usually upset at something that I won't let her do (play with my phone, go outside in the rain, etc)..

[NewMoonMum]

I am afraid half-years up to age 5 are, for most kids, really rough times. For whatever reason developmental spurts seem to occur most at these times.
DS was probably 16 or 17 months when he started getting difficult, and by 2 was pretty much an angel-up until about 3 weeks ago, he's now 32 months.

You might check your library for "Your One-Year-Old: The Fun-Loving, Fussy 12-To 24-Month-Old" by Louise Bates Ames and Frances L. Ilg. I did not read that one but am now reading their book on 2 year-olds, and they have one for each year going up to age 10. They are VERY dated, but still hold so much relevant information and advice-the 2 year old one is right on the money as far as I have read.

Good luck, things do get better!

[oolongtea]

None yet, at 16.5 months. But the joke is that I give him everything he wants, so there's nothing to tantrum about...

[Kmama2]

We have been having mini tantrums since about 9 months... and they are getting louder and worse. Ds is going to be one in 4 weeks.

[shnitzel]

She's just starting to talk, she knows a lot of words and understands everything but doesn't actually talk much. I do understand everything she tries to tell me she tantrums when she doesn't get her way immediately. I actually think the tantrums are more funny than anything, they don't really bother me, she is just getting out difficult feelings that she doesn't know how to manage and generally after her tantrum she is smiley again.

It's funny b/c she lies down on her back on the floor when she is upset but she does it deliberately, slowly and carefully so that she doesn't bump her head and then proceeds to kick and scream. It's funny because other than her tantrums she is always pleasant and never grumpy.

[thehighernest]

DS's started at around the 1 year mark, and I thought: wow, already? He would just fling himself on the floor and wail, sometimes very dramatically and for a prolonged period of time. I was worried about what was to come.

But you know what? They are almost nonexistent atm (I'm sure that will change again) at nearly 18 months. He's not talking really, but communicates much more effectively with pointing, noises, etc., and I think that has really helped. We also made sure that our home was as accessible to him as possible, and I think that has eased things for him, too. He started walking at 14 months, and maybe he was a bit frustrated before then at not being able to get around as easily as he would have liked. I think these things probably come in phases.

[LCBMAX]

I might have answered this differently a few months ago, but now I realize that I had no idea what a tantrum really was. So the REAL tantrums just started being regular, 1 -2 per day, last week - age 2.5. I'm talking about the thing where he wants up, then he wants the broken glass, then he wants up, then he wants the sharp knife, then he wants up, then he wants to hit the dog, then he wants up, and all of this is done at full hiccuping gasping screaming volume, and nothing will do. Ultimately he'll calm down with a forced change of scenery, and nursing.

As a result, though I thought we were close to weaning about 6 weeks ago, I am now fully engorged again. Mama's close to her tantrum too.

I do worry that there's yet another level of tantrum that I have still yet to encounter.

[tzs]

i have a 15 month old in my class who full-on tantrums what seems like everyfew minutes. maybe in reality it's every 10-20 minutes. all you can do is make sure she doesn't hit her head as you let her fall to the floor.
she IS extremely bright though and doesn't have words and loves doing really in depth exploring and discovery which isn;t always possible in a group setting. so i think most of it is about not being able to get into the really cool things she is doing and discovering but that we really can't let her do (play in the toilet, dump water all over the floor etc...)
i see alot of my 12 month old in her so i think i'm in for a tough time.

[belltree]

Maybe we don't have full blown tantrums yet, but screaming/crying/tears/sobbing fits happen, when we don't figure out, what he wants. It is mostly a language problem (he's 10.5months and obviously not talking), where he cannot communicate with us, what he would like to do - push his wagon somewhere somehow. Those scenes have been happening for a month now. So I'd say 9 months.

We just stand by, offer hugs and try not to feel to helpless.

[maptome]

DD was 11 months when she started the kicking and flailing and headbancing when things do not go her way. Examples: She can't reach something, something doesn't fit into another thing, she can't run around in a parking lot...She's 14 months now, and already over the 10 tantrums a day thing. Now we're down to 1 or 2. I'm hoping it doesn't come back...

[Mama2mc]

Thankfully we haven't really had tantrums yet. When DS was around 14 months old, every once in a while, when he was really tired and was denied something, he'd put a very sad face, then lie on the bed/floor, hide his face and cry for a bit, but that was it.

[spmamma]

Originally Posted by LCBMAX

I do worry that there's yet another level of tantrum that I have still yet to encounter.

DD is almost 3.5 now... her tantrums seemed to hit their peak around 2.5 and have since gotten better. She still has them, but not on the level or frequency that she had them a year ago. Who knows, though, I guess they could always get worse again!