It's over!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! - Page 2

[Phoenix~Mama]

Wow! Sole custody! That is incredible!!! I'm so happy for you Thyra and soooo glad you can move on in peace and not worry about this BS so much now. Congratulations, sweetie!!

[Theia]

That is awesome! I'm so happy for you and DS.

[Storm Bride]

Originally Posted by thyra

AND I WON!!!!!!!

I have SOLE custody!!!!!!

No trial, he settled at the last minute. He wanted too many overnights for my comfort level and the judge sided with me! And even if the judge hadn't, I was going to go to trial over it. But, I WON!!! And, its OVER!!! I get to move on with my life!!!!!

ETA - I need to add that its extra sweet b/c my ex told me hundreds of times that No judge, would ever, under any circumstances give me any form of custody of any baby ever. HA - he had to eat those words!!!!

Popping in from outside Single Parenting.

I don't know all the ins and outs of your story, but I've caught some here and there. I'm so happy you're on the other side of this.

I so wish more guys would be as helpful as my ex, who got himself thrown in jail right around the time I was serving him with divorce papers. He saved me so much of the hassle I see other moms go through.

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by Storm Bride

Popping in from outside Single Parenting.

I don't know all the ins and outs of your story, but I've caught some here and there. I'm so happy you're on the other side of this.

I so wish more guys would be as helpful as my ex, who got himself thrown in jail right around the time I was serving him with divorce papers. He saved me so much of the hassle I see other moms go through.

Thanks! I'm glad your ex got arrested and saved you the hassle!

[Momily]

Originally Posted by StephandOwen

Woo-hoo!!!! How wonderful! I'm so glad things ended up well!



I worked at a daycare for years and this is what we told parents to do. We could NOT refuse a parent contact with their child (and we had to allow them to leave with the child) UNLESS we had a court order on file. So get that court order to them ASAP! Before I started working there we had a family (2 small boys) and mom and dad were getting divorced. Dad came to the daycare IRATE about something that had happened between the two of them. Mom was already there picking up the kids. Dad wanted the kids, mom refused. The dad beat the snot out of the mom (in front of everyone! including the boys!), took the boys and ran. The mom got the boys back from the dad shortly after (waited until he drank to the point of passing out that night then took the boys back) BUT they had to continue letting the dad take the boys until there was a court order stating he couldn't. I think the mom got beat up a couple more times before she finally filed a restraining order and took the UAV to court for custody of the kids (she now has full custody and he has no visitation rights at all). But daycares/schools have their hands tied unless there is a court order on file with them.

To be clear, where I live and work, that's court order as in restraining order, not custody order. If a parent is named on the birth certficate, I need to allow them to take their child, regardless of whether or not they have custody or even visitation. The only exceptions are cases where there's a termination of parental rights, the child is in foster care, or where there's a restraining order either barring the parent from contacting the child, or barring them from being at school altogether. Those are hard to get, without documented abuse.

[Ceinwen]

Originally Posted by Momily

To be clear, where I live and work, that's court order as in restraining order, not custody order. If a parent is named on the birth certficate, I need to allow them to take their child, regardless of whether or not they have custody or even visitation. The only exceptions are cases where there's a termination of parental rights, the child is in foster care, or where there's a restraining order either barring the parent from contacting the child, or barring them from being at school altogether. Those are hard to get, without documented abuse.

I am super glad I don't live/work where you do! (No snarkiness, I realy mean that!)

[Super~Single~Mama]

Originally Posted by Ceinwen

I am super glad I don't live/work where you do! (No snarkiness, I realy mean that!)

Me too - that doesn't sound right at all. In fact, it sounds illegal to allow someone to take the child if they don't have the custodial rights to do so.

[hillymum]

Congratulations! That's awsome news!

[mommy_to_2angels]

Congrats, Girlie!! I'm doing a happy dance for you!!