Originally Posted by southernmommie
To be honest, I was completely shocked that she would say something like that. True or not true. Why would you say that?!
Having a premature baby can be very difficult for mothers, emotionally. Sometimes they feel like their bodies have failed, in being unable to bring a baby to term. I'm not saying that's rational: women who experience miscarriage also commonly feel like they are "failures." For her to have this experience multiple times would only compound those feelings, if indeed she has them. And people deal with failure, grief, their own negative traits in different ways: making inappropriate and off color jokes is a not uncommon one.
I don't know this woman, and maybe she is a total pill, but her making this totally unlikely statement was so inappropriate that it makes me think that she is still working through her experiences. Having one premature baby can leave long-standing emotional scars: I read an article not too long ago that said that parents of preemies often show signs of PTSD only about 6 months to a year after their babies are born. I think that the authors hypothesized that these parents put so much effort into remaining strong during the initial crisis stage that they don't really react until everything is in the clear. I can only assume that having 3 premature babies would be 3 times the worry.