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post #21 of 42
Oh no! mama!
That sucks so bad! I really hope you can find yourself some space to relax and get your head back in a good place, and then things pick up the pace for you from there!
I'll be thinking of you and hoping for your little one to just come on out for you! ELVs!!!
post #22 of 42
Oh Austinmom, can a even help now? I am not very religious, though I may have become so in this pregnancy (!), but I am praying for you. You've GOT to have baby soon! I hope your mental state is holding; you are an amazing trooper. Sending lots of love and ELVs.
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post #24 of 42
Thread Starter 
This is the first time I have every written while crying. This totally sucks. DH and I were supposed to go walking, but since the UT/Tech game is one, he turned it on, and is now asleep and there is NO way I'm waking his grouchy butt up. I'm so pissed off, so hurt, so tired of being pregnant. I would honestly say that if it weren't for us being a VBAC, I'd march into L&D and hook the Pit up myself! I'm so torn. I'm so exhausted. I'm tired of doing this, I've had the pretty crampy contractions all day and it hasn't lead to anything. I kinda want to puke, cry, and sleep all at the same time.

On top of that, people keep calling to 'see how things are going'. I know what they mean. Also, my sister, who is a nurse in one of our local hospital ERs gave a kinda worrisome conversation to me last night about going so far post date. I'm SURE she has TONS of hospital people telling her how 'dangerous' it is, and how 'the placenta is not meant to last forever', etc. Well, you know what, a uterus is NOT MEANT TO BE CUT OPEN, AND ONE THAT IS DONE, YOU PUT A MOM IN A VERY CRAPPY POSITION WHEN IT COMES TO DEALING WITH SITUATIONS LIKE THIS!

Like I seriously have a 'good' choice right now. Like I don't give myself enough crap about waiting, like me and DH don't already fight a million times a day because we are both stressed and just ready for this to be over. I'm so so so so done. I don't know what to do.
post #25 of 42
DDCC big AustinMom. I'm really feeling for you right now. You are doing SUCH a good job. I know it's hard, but you're awesome!!!
post #26 of 42
DDCC

Wow you are such a trooper going through all this and keeping your head!

Now go outside get a little fresh air, then scream if you feel like it, release those bad/exhausted/pissed off vibes Write down what's making you most upset then throw it in the garbage.

Unplug the phone (after telling anyone real important that YOU WILL CALL THEM when anything happens)

Your body is doing some massive work right now and I have a feeling when your little one is ready to join you it will be a fast labor from all the work you are doing now.

I did exactly what you are doing with DS for 2 days.... My water broke on the 3rd day and he was here within 3 hours so be prepared for that possibility.

Just hang in there and get some good energy flowing Feel like some ice cream??



"My partner and I are wonderful and spirited parents."
"I wait patiently for the starting of labor."
"My baby is in the perfect position for birth."
"My love is stronger than my fear."
"I am a mother already."
"I can trust my body to give birth."
"My baby will be born at the perfect moment."
-----The Pocket Midwife.
post #27 of 42
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This totally sucks.
It is such shit that we get put in this position at the end of our pregnancies, feeling like our world is closing in on our options. There are a million sides to the equation, I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt that they want the best for Mama and baby.. ie Nurse sister ( it SUCKS to have medical profession relatives when you are doing something out of the "norm"), Anxious Dr, etc. Have you tried any natural induction methods? What position is babe in?

Eff people who dont even encourage things like nipple stim when you get to this point of doneness..yay for our "body knowing what to do" but sometimes, our mind isnt so sure what crisis to attend to first.. so we have to clear that or override it a little I think it's best to clear it as much as possible..

This is going to sound ridiculous probably....but bear with me.

Can you spend some time clearing things with your husband? Even have a date? Take him out, let him have a couple beers, drive him home.. You relax and have a half glass of red wine and a bath? Do you feel like you would be safe and supported if you went into labor right now? If you dont, then what would that mean for your labor? Dads go through their own shit with us, but right now he gets to suck it up, stop taking naps when you want to walk and support you.

Hope you go into labor soon, Mama!
post #28 of 42

Hang in there mama. I carried my second to 42 weeks +6 days, so I totally know what it feels like to think you'll be pregnant forever! It was worth it in the end when I got to experience my wonderful HB and I promise you'll feel that way too. If it makes you feel any better, my labor with ds was quick and fairly easy with very little pre-signs, so since you're having contractions, I bet it will be very soon!

I also had to turn my phone off to get any peace from well meaning family and friends
post #29 of 42
Thread Starter 
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Originally Posted by MamaChef View Post
It is such shit that we get put in this position at the end of our pregnancies, feeling like our world is closing in on our options. There are a million sides to the equation, I try to give everyone the benefit of the doubt that they want the best for Mama and baby.. ie Nurse sister ( it SUCKS to have medical profession relatives when you are doing something out of the "norm"), Anxious Dr, etc. Have you tried any natural induction methods? What position is babe in?

Eff people who dont even encourage things like nipple stim when you get to this point of doneness..yay for our "body knowing what to do" but sometimes, our mind isnt so sure what crisis to attend to first.. so we have to clear that or override it a little I think it's best to clear it as much as possible..

This is going to sound ridiculous probably....but bear with me.

Can you spend some time clearing things with your husband? Even have a date? Take him out, let him have a couple beers, drive him home.. You relax and have a half glass of red wine and a bath? Do you feel like you would be safe and supported if you went into labor right now? If you dont, then what would that mean for your labor? Dads go through their own shit with us, but right now he gets to suck it up, stop taking naps when you want to walk and support you.

Hope you go into labor soon, Mama!
Yeah, he ended up waking up and letting me cry everything out while being wonderful . He really is amazing, and yes, I really truly do feel very supported. We've done all the things I've bolded, including hot baths with us playing yahtzee over the side of the tub. He's very supportive.

I have done the acupuncture, doing chiro, I'm hesitant to do nipple stim as that's what we did with our last birth and my body never kicked in, so we were stuck on the breast pump for upwards of 10 hrs. So I'm trying to avoid that, as I'd rather not labor that way. Same thing with herbs, although, herbs would not be such a difficult thing to keep up in labor, I'm hesitant as I don't know if my body would kick in. So...again, it's a choice of do I do the herbs now and hope my body kicks in and potentially deal with just crappy more prodromal labor stuff, or do I wait a little while till I know my body is really really ready?

After the last 3 nights, I'd much rather wait it out. I'm sure I have GOT to be close, as last night from 130 to 8am we had 4-6 min apart, min long, had to breathe, focus, vocalize, relax, and really concentrate to get through contractions, and then they stopped at 9am. So, I'm wondering if my body is doing it's own physical therapy after being sliced open 2 years ago with our CS. It's 'relearning' the process and toning itself. Or....I'm just a wimp. I don't know, at this point it could be either. lol!

I am in a good mood though.
post #30 of 42
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I am in a good mood though.
Way to go! Now you seemed prepared and ready for labor to start
post #31 of 42
I walked up and down my driveway for an hour and still baby didn't come until I decided to rest , sometimes they just have to have it their way don't they!
post #32 of 42
Thread Starter 
So, yesterday morn at about 430 called my Doula to come over and just 'be' as things got REALLY intense, she recommended a walk and/or a shower, did the walk, I think it tired me out enough to be able to sleep sitting up against the bed on my birth ball as lying down was NOT happening. Then, I ended up moving to bed, slept between contrax and woke up deeply, loudly vocalizing through them. Then, got up, took a shower and they stopped (as usual) at around 9am.

I know the shower *could* have stopped them, but based on the last 2-3 days, I'd say it didn't, that's just their pattern. So we then slept till 2pm. That was nice. I did have my Doula give the run down to my MW who said she wanted to see me if possible, went to see her, she wanted to do an exam, so I did (we don't plan on having any in labor, so I knew it was needed to have one since she was rec. it) Turns out we are 4-5cm, which is good, but with my son, I was 4 at 38 weeks and did the natural induction at 41+3 and my body never took over. So there is really no telling how long we have been this far dilated. She did say my cervix was pretty posterior and not all that effaced, so she as gently as possible, pulled it anterior and held it there for a bit. OUCH! Reason number 15 we are not doing exams in labor unless need be!

So, we're in it again, for the 4th night in a row, it's gradually gotten more and more intense, some of the contractions now have two peaks, which is WAY fun, but we are just seeing how things go.

42+6 today!
post #33 of 42
You rock, mama! Your patience and perserverance are amazing! I'm so happy that something is happening for you! I hope things move along soon. Keep us updated!
post #34 of 42
AustinMom, thinking of you today. Hope you haven't posted today because you're having a baby.
post #35 of 42
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Originally Posted by CraftyMcGluestick View Post
AustinMom, thinking of you today. Hope you haven't posted today because you're having a baby.

I was lying in bed this morning hoping that we haven't heard from you because you were birthing! to you
post #36 of 42
Sending you lots of s and support, AustinMom!
post #37 of 42
Thread Starter 
We had her FINALLY! Long birth story, lots of unexpecteds happened, turns out the end is a Cesarean and a NICU baby, will give more details later after a good night's sleep. Sorry to leave everyone hanging . Things are looking on the up and up though!
post #38 of 42
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We had her FINALLY! Long birth story, lots of unexpecteds happened, turns out the end is a Cesarean and a NICU baby, will give more details later after a good night's sleep. Sorry to leave everyone hanging . Things are looking on the up and up though!
BIG AustinMom. I hope things are getting better every minute with you and Baby Girl. I know this is not what you planned and obviously no one wants their baby in the NICU, but I am so proud of you! You have handled this pregnancy like a champ with grace and dignity. I look forward to hearing updates and in the meantime am sending lots of healing vibes and love to you and your family.
post #39 of 42
AM, you and Baby Girl are in my prayers. Crafty said it well, but you did good, momma! Much love coming your way
post #40 of 42
AustinMom, DDC and big I have been thinking of you often. You have been so strong throughout this pregnancy. You are truly an inspiration for patience and faith in your body. I am sorry baby is in the NICU, but I am glad everything is looking up.
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