3 year old and potty resistance- Please Help!

[pdxcox]

Background, 3 year old DS has been using potty fulltime since 23months.
He just decided he was done with diapers and that was that. No pushing from us and no real fuss either way.

And we've had no issues at all until the last couple months. He is so busy trying so hard NOT to go that he waits too long and has a miss.
I figured it was a stage and a few dirty pants and the pain of getting cleaned up would be enough to remind him it really wasnt that bad to take a break from activity, go potty and come back.

well months in and he seems to be getting MORE resistant. i can see him shifting, grabbing, running in circles and when I say
"lets run and go potty so we can ....."
he says "i no need to"
and not a minute later "mom, i had accident"

really trying not to be frustrated with him about it, but its so easy for me to see. Just go!

how do I help him figure it out and help myself from being annoyed about the 3rd pair of dirty undies everyday?

thanks for any advice

[spmamma]

Have you tried guiding him to the bathroom in those situations? DD potty trained at the same age and also went through an accident phase around 2.5 YO.

We simply started watching her for her signs again, then took her directly to the bathroom each time. Sometimes she resisted, but I told her that it was important to listen to what her body was telling her (i.e. it's time to go potty). If she couldn't listen to her body, then I would help her do so.

In the end, I didn't give her the opportunity to have an accident if I could help it. I know she was getting more engrossed in an activity than ever before - perhaps it's the age. In the end, she grew out of it and has returned to telling us when she needs to go. Every once in a while, I'll give her a reminder. But she hasn't had an accident in quite a while.