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post #41 of 97
9/19/10 at 1:01am
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Originally Posted by Lady Lilya View Post
I think it makes sense that they try to cut hair and toe nails. Those are things that they observe being cut.

It is much less likely for a child to try to cut his penis.
You know I'm just teasing, right? Of course I know he wouldn't do that. I just think it's funny to think about-- I can imagine him thinking it over. Like, "hmm, I wonder if I could... Nah, it'll hurt. But I could...."
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post #42 of 97
9/19/10 at 9:08am
Llyra, he sounds more sophisticated than my DS.
post #43 of 97
9/19/10 at 9:32am
My dad wants my mom present at the birth in case anything goes wrong. Like, what's she gonna do?
post #44 of 97
9/19/10 at 10:53am
I don't know...maybe I just block bad advice out. I know people have said crazy things to me...but I can't think of anything specific.

When my grandmother came to visit after DD was born, one of the first things she said was "When I had babies, my mother told me not to pick them up too much because they'd get spoiled....." Then she rolled her eyes and picked DD up....and I don't think she put her down for the rest of the week.
post #45 of 97
9/19/10 at 9:21pm
Lets see, a total stranger on the way out of the OBs office told me I should get a c/section because of how big I was getting at 20ish weeks...

Another person on a chat board (not here) told me that circumcising was important or my son would probably have to do it to himself later because he'd be infertile otherwise...

The nurse at my OBs office told me to wean my 3 year old immediately or I would miscarry again. My Dr is very supportive however and explained things to her...

Another stranger on learning I am allergic to dairy assumed that meant I couldn't breastfeed since everyone knows you have to drink a ton of cow's milk in order to lactate
post #46 of 97
9/19/10 at 9:44pm
Went out to dinner last night for my friends bday, her sister was there with her not quite 3 WEEK old...and had a bottle of water for her...


It literally made me queazy...I was a good girl and didnt say anything to her about it, but i wanted to SOOOo bad. I'm not sure if she's BF'ing or not...but even if she were formula fed, she still doesnt need water for SEVERAL months. UGH.

I was thinking of messaging my friend and asking her why her neice was drinking water at this age...but she's never had any kids and I'm sure she wouldnt know what to say. CRAP. Poor baby.
post #47 of 97
9/21/10 at 7:35pm
Ahhh....what about the good ol - have to toughen up the nipples bit. I must have heard about using a dry wash cloth and rubbing my nipples from at least 3 different people!
post #48 of 97
9/21/10 at 8:16pm
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Another person on a chat board (not here) told me that circumcising was important or my son would probably have to do it to himself later because he'd be infertile otherwise...
Cause you know the US is the only country capable of reproducing anymore.
post #49 of 97
9/21/10 at 11:31pm
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Originally Posted by MomToEmerson View Post
Lets see, a total stranger on the way out
Another person on a chat board (not here) told me that circumcising was important or my son would probably have to do it to himself later because he'd be infertile otherwise...
right. because before we humans learned to circumcise, we didn't reproduce.

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The nurse at my OBs office told me to wean my 3 year old immediately or I would miscarry again. My Dr is very supportive however and explained things to her...
ouch. thank god for good doctors.

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Another stranger on learning I am allergic to dairy assumed that meant I couldn't breastfeed since everyone knows you have to drink a ton of cow's milk in order to lactate
well, don't you? i mean, doesn't every mammal drink a lot of cow's milk? they produce milk after all..
post #50 of 97
9/22/10 at 12:42am
I told my husband that you have to be circed to reproduce. He laughed and asked where he came from, then. He is from a culture where nobody is circed.
post #51 of 97
9/22/10 at 9:39am
My mom's giving all kinds of bad advice, while I'm pregnant with my first. Like, my friends whose babies are needing help with crawling/walking developmental delays are having trouble "because they hold their babies too much"- they're spoiling them. Or that I shouldn't try so hard to pump after going back too work- I'll get too tired. Or that I shouldn't expect Dad to help out so much (DH is planning on being a SAHD!)...

There's too many to list- it makes me think I don't want her to babysit, and that I'll have to lie about how we're *actually* doing things when baby comes to avoid constant lectures.

My MIL, on the other hand, is awesome, and totally gets AP, even if she didn't have a name for it when she had babies.
post #52 of 97
9/22/10 at 9:51am
I had a boss who was *positive* that when his WOH wife nursed their child (now in high school) she only had to pump in the evenings. He said this to another nursing mom, suggesting she wouldn't have to pump during the day. I ended up being the "local expert" who had to explain how it actually works. AND this guy has an MD-- although he isn't in clinical practice.
post #53 of 97
9/22/10 at 11:06am
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Originally Posted by HopefulJo View Post
My mom's giving all kinds of bad advice, while I'm pregnant with my first. Like, my friends whose babies are needing help with crawling/walking developmental delays are having trouble "because they hold their babies too much"- they're spoiling them.
I held DS all.the.time. and he sat up at 5mo, crawled around 9mo (cruised shortly thereafter) and walked on his first birthday...

Maybe they aren't holding them enough
post #54 of 97
9/22/10 at 11:07am
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Originally Posted by TheDivineMrsM View Post
Wow... My family has been incredibly well-behaved in comparison. These are making me
I second that. I guess we are just lucky, but our family has their annoying things, still.
post #55 of 97
9/22/10 at 11:43am
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Originally Posted by MomToEmerson View Post
Lets see, a total stranger on the way out of the OBs office told me I should get a c/section because of how big I was getting at 20ish weeks...
Oh man! That's such a pain! "Thank you! I couldn't give birth without your advice!"
post #56 of 97
9/22/10 at 11:44am
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Originally Posted by butterflies View Post
I had a boss who was *positive* that when his WOH wife nursed their child (now in high school) she only had to pump in the evenings. He said this to another nursing mom, suggesting she wouldn't have to pump during the day. I ended up being the "local expert" who had to explain how it actually works. AND this guy has an MD-- although he isn't in clinical practice.
This is so frustrating to me. My (male) boss is questioning the frequency of my prenatal appts. and such based on his wife's pregnancies. Would he do the same if I had cancer? "Well my mom had cancer and...blah blah blah." I'm not saying pregnancy is like cancer but from a medical standpoint I don't feel like my boss should be questioning my medical condition!

Oh and the self-cutting penis thing made me laugh so hard I nearly peed myself!
post #57 of 97
9/22/10 at 11:49am
Worst "advice" I ever got:

"Did you know, a baby can start manipulating it's mother at just three weeks old?"

A man told me this as we were leaving DH's Christmas party soon after supper because DD was only 7 months old and I wasn't comfortable leaving her for long periods of time.
post #58 of 97
9/22/10 at 11:57am
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Originally Posted by Ambivalent Dreams View Post
Worst "advice" I ever got:

"Did you know, a baby can start manipulating it's mother at just three weeks old?"

A man told me this as we were leaving DH's Christmas party soon after supper because DD was only 7 months old and I wasn't comfortable leaving her for long periods of time.
omg, what does that say about human nature in general that people think this?
post #59 of 97
9/22/10 at 12:06pm
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Originally Posted by HopefulJo View Post
My mom's giving all kinds of bad advice, while I'm pregnant with my first. Like, my friends whose babies are needing help with crawling/walking developmental delays are having trouble "because they hold their babies too much"- they're spoiling them.
Oh that's funny because what I heard babies who are carried and worn frequently learn to sit unassisted and walk FASTER because they have better inner ear (and thus balance) development.

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"Did you know, a baby can start manipulating it's mother at just three weeks old?"
Hmm... I always thought it was sooner than that. I mean first he stopped my periods, then he made me hungry all the time, NOW I'm gaining weight! Of course if you don't count the 'manipulation' he needs to survive and thrive then I doubt a 3 week old is capable of such complex reasoning.
post #60 of 97
9/22/10 at 12:19pm
nak

My late grandmother informed me that I shouldnt be painting while pregnant (w/ an organic/no fume paint) because "strectching your arm up like that might get the baby's cord wrapped around his neck." (at 14 weeks)
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