'My Mom Told Me' - and other bad advice - Page 5

[lillymonster]

Originally Posted by trekkingirl

my mom recently told me that I need to swaddle the baby for at least a year or she will have eczema and food allergies like my other children. So basicllly she was saying that she thinks that I am to blame for my kids allergies because I didn't swaddle them for at least a year. Does that even make sense? I'm confused!

What does one have to do with the other? My DD has food allergies and had delayed eating - well, okay she wasn't swaddled for very long, but she got hot easily and wriggled her hands out all the time.

My mom believed my DD food allergies were because I didn't feed her soon enough, you know back in the 70s they started feeding kids at 8 weeks. by 12 weeks I was eating rice cereal, 2 fruits and a veggie at noon. At 5 months I was eating eggs. Because I waited, that is why she has allergies

[Aliy]

babies fall out???? now wouldn't that make things easier lol

swaddling and allergies linked......??? uh okay.... my oldest wasn't swaddled and has no allergies my youngest was and he has no allergies.

[OkiMom]

Most Marines, even some of the ones that are parents themselves, don't know much about childbirth/breastfeeding etc since most don't. My command had 4 marines pumping once and it was considered odd, maybe it was because our First Sgt was awesome and dedicated a room at the barracks as a pumping room or you could have your husband/babysitter bring the baby by and you could nurse the baby in the room. My daughter wouldn't take a bottle so she said it was ok for me to bring the baby to work if need be, I was checking out of the Marine Corps at the time but still had to go into the office at times. She didn't have children herself but she was great for those of us that did.

My husband and his SSgts/Major call me and ask me questions when they don't know something. I think they all have my e-mail address because they will call and ask questions about female regulations or pregnancy (they have a pregnant Marine in their office right now) because they want to make sure things are done right. So not ALL Marines are pains, just some don't think before they speak.

Aliy- I had a friend who had a 7 minute labor. She felt the first contraction, went to put the laundry in the dryer and felt the second. Felt three more walking back to the bedroom and then felt the baby crown. She laughed at how she was glad she had a skirt on so all she had to take off was the undies. Her next child her husband joked she was going to stand up and it was just going to fall out one day. She wouldn't even leave home for the week before she was due because she was scared she would give birth in the middle of the supermarket.

[MaerynPearl]

Originally Posted by Aliy

babies fall out???? now wouldn't that make things easier lol

lol yeah it basically can happen... Ina Mays guide to childbirth has a couple stories about it happening basically like that... and the Sept. DDC had a few births that happened within 20 minutes of the mom realizing she was in labor (gosh I think we have had about 3 unintended UCs... lol)

I know with my DD it was 3 hours between when I was still questioning if I was in labor and when I had her... after 20 hours with DS... so yeah, my moms convinced this ones just going to fall out LOL

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by MegaBerry

It's not bad advice but EVERY time my mom and I get off the phone, she tells me "Remember, don't EVER shake your baby!" Right mom... she tells me every time! And I never even get angry, I don't know where the need to say this comes from.

Hahaha, I love that one.

Next time you should pause for a long time and say "I wasn't supposed to do that?"

[Kelly1101]

Originally Posted by MaerynPearl

lol yeah it basically can happen... Ina Mays guide to childbirth has a couple stories about it happening basically like that... and the Sept. DDC had a few births that happened within 20 minutes of the mom realizing she was in labor (gosh I think we have had about 3 unintended UCs... lol)

Hehe, I'm one... not quite a UC but almost...

I don't know if "fall" would be the word, cause I was pushing, but "fly out" maybe, rotfl.

It was funny, the next morning when my husband was processing what had happened, he was asking "So what would happen if you just didn't sit down to have the baby?"

At first I didn't get quite what he was saying ("well, you could squat, or lay down"...) and then realized that he was going over the night before in his mind and seriously wondering if the baby almost "fell out" in the hospital parking lot.

[lillymonster]

Originally Posted by Kelly1101

Hahaha, I love that one.

Next time you should pause for a long time and say "I wasn't supposed to do that?"

This sounds terrible, but I had my first birth in an inner city hospital and they actually had a paper I had to sign that said I was never supposed to shake a baby, and what would happen if I did. I had to sign a paper! I remember looking at the nurse like WT?? I can only think they did that because of the area I was in, I know a lot of teen, single moms give birth there.

[korey]

So I've been laughing with this thread for a few days, and now I have something to contribute! I found this ad today inside the wrapper of some homemade zucchini bread sold by a small, local company:

NEVER EVER SHAKE A BABY
Parents, talk with anyone who cares for
your child about the dangers of shaking
an infant or child up to the age of 5. Okay, first of all...my zucchini bread is giving me parenting advice?

And second...it's okay to shake a child over 5???

I know that's not funny, but I can't help laughing out loud!

[Aliy]

lty say i have never heard of bread giving parenting advice but there is a first for everything...


Gosh I don't think i'm going to leave my house when the baby is getting ready to be born.... first labour 10 hours, ( first contraction to baby in my arms had AROM when I was 7cm and was ready to push right away but they made me wait ) second labour 5 hours...( from my water breaking no previous contraction to baby in my arms )

I worry about going too much faster. One of the reasons for planning a home birth.

My fave advice is you need to teach the baby to drink from a bottle or they'll be attached to you forever..... um is there a problem with that????

And of course if you don't let the baby cry themselves to sleep they never learn to sleep on their own

[myk]

well, i pretty much fell out of my mother's uterus i was 6+ weeks early, she wasn't having contractions, she just felt an odd pressure in the vagina. she went to the hospital, where they didn't take her too seriously, checked her out, and saw that my head was coming down already. i think she had a contraction or two and there i was.

they diagnosed her with cervical incompetence.

[cheeseandonion]

Hilarious! My MIL told me that if we didn't circumcise our son he would get poop in his penis.

[WifeofAnt]

Besides the fact that it has quite a way to travel to get to the front of the diaper... the foreskin is tight in an infant to PREVENT that! From everything I've heard it only needs to open enough for urine to get out.
I haven't changed too many girls but I doubt poop would ever just work its way into the vagina either without some external help.

[Smokering]

My mom keeps telling me not to eat food and to watch my weight. I know she's only worried cause my aunt gained like 90 lbs and actually had a very dangerous last trimester because of it, but please.... give me a break.

Eugh. My in-laws told SIL very sternly when she got pregnant this time, "Now don't gain too much weight! You gained far too much last time and it's only just coming off!" Nice thing to say to a newly pregnant woman, right? And the funny thing is.... A, she didn't gain that much weight, and B, FIL came over this morning to my house and said "Goodness, you're getting far too skinny!" - and I'm almost exactly the same size as a non-pregnant SIL! I don't know what's up with that, but poor SIL was rather hurt.

[gypsymama2008]

I used to work in a store that sold nursing bras and I remember my boss saying to one pregnant woman "Get the epidural, the kid will be exposed to enough drugs later on that it really won't make a difference." She was kind of joking but she did seriously believe that all women should get epidurals for child birth. I was 21 at the time and had no opinion on natural child birth either way, but now it makes me sad that she gave that she gave that sort of advice to so many women.

[atnightingale]

From a very young nurse and mother I worked with when hearing I was planning a homebirth. "You know it hurts, right?"

Then there was all the clucking I got that I wasn't gaining enough weight, etc. I had to explain a million times that I was fine but have a very long torso.

I got the CIO stuff from my mom, which surprised and hurt me a bit.

But the most unhelpful thing I got was my MIL telling the story of my DH's birth over and over again (in front of him) untill I had to ask her to stop. 3 hours of pushing. I thought you were never going to come out. This HUGE head.

The funny thing about this story is that talking it over with her later in a less charged moment, it's actually kind of a success story. DH was large. 10lb 13oz, and did have a very big head. And I know she perceived the labor as awful (hospital.. lithotomy etc) but when we talked more about it she started to say things like, "I didn't think he was ever going to come out. The doctor wanted to do a C section. The nurses got me through it. they tried to encourage me and they showed me a mirror. Eventually they told me I had to get up. And they had me sit up and get up and push, and that's how we got him out."

I am just somehow pleased that even then and in that era, they avoided a c section because the nurses encouraged a mom to keep going and got her upright. I wish she could see it as a victory.

[milosmomma]

From a friend who'd just had a baby (when I asked if she was nursing): "No, because I plan on going back to work, and I'd have to pump 8 to 12 times during my shift and my boss wouldn't like that."

Oh! I'd forgotten about this one (I think I blocked it out). When I was pregnant with DS, a nurse practioner told me that, because DS was breech at 37 weeks, I'd HAVE to schedule a C/S for that week (this went against the advice of every other OB & midwife in the practice). When I told her that I was going to wait it out to see if he flipped or I went into labor on my own, she said "but if you go into labor, you could show up to the hospital with a leg sticking out of your vagina!" After I told her I was good, she told me that she couldn't see me anymore and that I'd have to see an OB because I was so high risk. In fact, she went and got an OB to finish my appointment (who, by the way, was not at all worried about it and told me to wait it out). Meanwhile, DS flipped a week and a half later and I had a vaginal birth (with no random legs sticking out).

When I went to the office for my first pre-natal visit this time around, I learned that she was no longer there. NO PROBLEM with me!!!!!!!

[MrsBone]

I would just call this advice, not necessarily all that bad, just not right in my case. My DS was having a hard time nursing at 2 months. He'd go 6-8 hours without nursing. When I'd try to put him to the breast, he'd arch his back and look up at me with these confused, sad eyes. I knew something was wrong. My mom kept telling me that I was just stressing about it, and needed to relax, and he would nurse. She also said that he will eat when he's hungry enough. He did still eat, but it was a battle for days. Turns out he was on a nursing strike(just as I thought) because he was super sensitive to the small amount of caffeine I was drinking each day. Sometimes, mama knows best!