Originally Posted by Karamom
I really liked Hold on to your kids. It made perfect sense to me.
I never said that the 50's, 60's or 70's was the ideal. To me the ideal would be an attentive sahm more like continuum conceptish than Mad Men.
I usually leave the kids with dh for an average of about 3 hours a week. Then I have a couple hours at night when they go to bed and my mom watches them a couple hours a month.
No, your right. I have never visited a preschool.
I have to admit your posts are making me feel like a really crummy person. I guess I am just a judgy b****. Maybe that is why I have no friends. The thing is if I admit preschool is ok I have to admit that my ds may be better off there. I've had several people tell me he would be. He is very social and I have a hard time fulfilling those needs. But the thought makes me feel absolutely awful. I want to be that super mom. I would have to let go of the ideal I have been holding for a couple years. We actually live across the street from an elementary school and in the evenings we like to go over there and play. Last night while we were there I was thinking about this thread and I looked inside the classroom window and I just started crying because I felt that maybe I had been wrong and ds would be better off in school.
My mom stayed at home for part of my childhood and I do remember her cleaning and cooking while I played on my own. Not that it is horrible to do that....and at some point every mom has to clean, cook and run errands.
BUT...being exhausted, sick and pregnant has left me with zero energy. I bring dd swimming, to the park, out for walks, to playdates, to school readiness program etc during the week. And I really appreciate having a reliable 7 hours to plan other things too.
BUT...if I had a reliable *village* then I would probably have even looked into preschools. So, if you have a reliable village you should be happy and very thankful....it doesn't happen that way for everyone.
I have toured a couple of preschools, and some were just not suited for me, but the one I chose is really really nice. Tonnes of activites, sensory activities, child involvement in acitivities, outside play, walks, songs, stories, and fun learning experiences. Not to mention that my daughter looks forward to seeing her friends. There are two teachers, a cook and 4 children total.
My older daughter is in regular school. Some people enjoy homeschooling, and have a great social support system to do this. I have no real desire to homeschool (personal choice). She has a good teacher and an EA. I am involved in the parent council, and a fundraising committee that is going to build a playground, there is a fruit and veggie program in the school, they also bring them to the community center for swimming lessons and gymnastics lessons (which alot of our students would never be able to experience if it weren't that there is a fee of $30 a year to attend these lessons, and the parents don't have to pay if they don't have the money...which alot don't). They have two nutritional breaks, two outside times, gym time, library time, French classes, dance lessons etc. I KNOW that I
wouldn't be able to do all that. (Not that there aren't parents that can't....I am only speaking for myself).
So....you don't have to be a super mom, but for some moms we are better moms if we have small breaks.....