Originally Posted by texmati
i understand that that thinking. But many mom's are admitting they need the break. I just don't think that referring to daycares as holding pen's is necessary or accurate.
She's not just talking about marketing; I'm referring to the part of her post that says 'ultimately it serves my children...'.
I do think that the root of the 'preschool' discussion is the bold part of your post. Why doesn't it "make sense" for a sahm to do a daycare? Even when so many mom's are admitting that they need the break?
After reading the whole post I can understand your qualm.
And, I actually think it is a bit pretentious for a SAHM to send a toddler to daycare so that he may benifit from what the daycare babies are "learning" in the morning, and that this attitude might even be a slap in the face to parents who have no choice but to put their kids in full-day care.
I understand the need for a break. (Believe me I do.) What I feel even more than that is this guilt about not getting the paints out every day, or my lack of nursery rhyme skills, or my not possibly preparing DD for school, etc.
SAHMs do need help. It does take a village. It 'seems' wrong to me
when SAHMs send their babies off to daycare because society guilts them into thinking they are inadequate, and the village's only response to their needs is to herd their babies unnecessarily into institutionalized care earlier and earlier.
I do not judge any SAHM who has sent their young child to daycare/preschool. Honestly, my beef is with our society's attitude about fast-forwarding our children through early development.
And, for some context, we live in a very high COL area with a nationaly renowned school district. I see this all the time.