20somethings? - Page 3

[Mrs.Music]

Originally Posted by nosce

I think about how many times I've gone off about how I want to have my babies way before I ever hit 35 because it's so much harder after that... and then I realize that my captive audience is a group of now-horrified 33 year old women. OOPS.

[dakotablue]

I'm 27. I was 26 when DS was born and I'll be 27 when this one is born.

Dh and I got married when we were both 23. We got so many comments about being to young...well actually he did and his aunt talked about how young marriages end in divorce (she is divorced)

When have DS, everyone was happy but strangers tread carefully on "Oh is this that babies Fathers?" "Yes this is my Dh."...Dh's aunt said when visiting us in the hospital, your too young...Um what am I suppose to do now?

We want 5 and to be done by 35. I think we're perfect.

My friends are my age and married. Dh's used to be friends still party and don't get why Dh would rather spend time with me and a baby

My best friend just had her second and she's 26.

[dex_millie]

I am 28 and am on my 3rd child also. I know how you feel, I don't know much people around my age with children. A few of my friends just started to have babies (like 2/3 of them and only one lives in my state). I am always the only one when I do get to go out that has to worry about my kids at home.

Oh, DH SIL had all her 4 children by age 30/31.

[ComplexOphelia]

Originally Posted by Mrs.Music

nosce- I think I need to post a picture of myself. Your story kind of amuses me. When I was pregnant with my first (married and 19) people kept actually STOPPING ME to ask if I was 15. And when I was in the NICU with her, my husband was sleeping in a chair a little away from the isolette and the nurse must not have noticed him but she gave me a HUGE speech about how important support from my parents would be. NONE of the hospital staff asked my marital status. And when someone came up after she was born to do some birth certificate stuff, they were actually prepared to help me work out paternity because I was "single." I was really offended. I didn't have my second baby there. And actually, still people comment to me about babysitting and such. This is my 3rd... you think it'd stop by now. And it's not that I'm so young anymore... Just that I still look like I'm 16.

EW to that nurse and hospital in general!! I'm so glad you didn't go back there.

I'm really young looking, too. I figure it's all right, because we'll be the ones who look like we're 20 when we're 40. AND our kids will be grown, so we'll be able to go have fun and look good doing it .

[WifeofAnt]

DDCC! We got married when I was 18 and started trying right away. Then he got deployed to Iraq but we did get pregnant when he came back and now I'm 20, to be 21 next month. So far I've only had one person comment I was 'too young' to have kids (my grandma). She thought I shouldn't even be married until I was 30 (says the woman who was pregnant and married at 16 ). Oh well. I feel great, we have a new car and everything we need to take care of a baby and I still get to be a SAHM.

His family definitely didn't think we were going to stay married for more than 6 months though. Now they're a little shocked we're over 2 years... I've never been so happy in my life until he came along.

(ps: last summer I was mistaken by a whole group of people for 12!)

[nosce]

When my husband and I were dating (he was 29 and I was 19) his stepmother wouldn't even allow me into her home for weekly family dinners because of my young age. She swore I'd run off and that'd be the end of it- get bored of the adult life. It was heartbreaking to be judged like that because of my age- if she'd only taken the time to meet me and realize that I WASN'T the average teenager...
We announced we were having a baby shortly after that and she bit her lip and got over it based on the fact that suddenly she got to be a grandma. Suddenly she knew me and that I was a smart, mature, responsible young woman who didn't really belong in my age group and all was well. Now the past has been put aside and she spends more time with me than with her stepson. And I hear nothing from her except how good of a mother I am, how patient, how smart...

To think I was once forbidden from entering her home because I was just a baby.

[aidenn]

That's another thing a previous poster mentioned: being young enough to truck around with them! My husband and I have a pretty significant age gap (15 years!) so we like to say that there's someone to provide wisdom and someone to provide the energy!

[nosce]

People also seem to forget that the younger you are as parents, the younger your parents are as grandparents. Watching my parents get down on their knees to play horsey with my two year old now in their early 60's, I am SO GLAD that I didn't wait another ten years when they wouldn't be able to be as physical with their grandkids. As it is their knees and hearts are bad enough!

[WifeofAnt]

Originally Posted by nosce

People also seem to forget that the younger you are as parents, the younger your parents are as grandparents.

DH's parents are a bit older but mine will be 42 and 38 (the younger is my step-mom, my real mom who would be 40 isn't involved anymore) when this LO is born.

[Aliy]

i have a young family.... my childrens grand parents are between 46 and 52 my children still have great granparents that are mid 60 to mid 70's and there is still one great great grandma left but she is pretty young ( second marraige ) who is late 80's early 90's

my one set of grandparents love travelling with us and go lots of places with them and the children. i thnk it is great.

I have gotten from co- worker that i look 16- 17 years old... they were really surprised that I was married and had 2 children and working on number three...lol

[Mrs.Music]

Originally Posted by WifeofAnt

DH's parents are a bit older but mine will be 42 and 38 (the younger is my step-mom, my real mom who would be 40 isn't involved anymore) when this LO is born.

My dad is 42 and my mom is 40. This baby is my mom's 4th grandchild and my dad's 7th.

[StrongBeliever]

I really like this thread! I am also a "young mother". I was pregnant with DS at 18, gave birth a month after my 19th birthday(single at the time). DD was born 2 months after my 22nd birthday(10 months after meeting my husband). And I am two months past my 25th birthday and pregnant with my 3rd(due late Jan, early Feb)! I feel there are so many perks to being a young mom... Most of them have already been listed. I never feel like I am missing out on anything, and I have no regrets. I am extremely grateful to have started when I did. Thanks for this awesome thread!

[smeep]

I had DS when I was a month shy of 21. My second would have been born when DS was 3 so I would have been a month shy of 23. This one will be born a month after I turn 26. I have a friend who had three kids (in under three years) by the time she was 22.

[trekkingirl]

Originally Posted by trekkingirl

I really enjoyed the TTC in our 20's thread back when I was trying to make this baby. It seems like there are a lot of 20somethings in this DDC. Does someone want to make a 20something chat thread? I would love to participate! If I had any idea how to be a thread keeper I would do it myself but there are still basic things on MDC that I have no idea how to do.

What do yall think

your welcome for the thread. I think we should have a 20something thread all the time but not sure how to make that happen?