Well, he moved out today.

[candycat]

Edited by candycat - 12/25/10 at 5:01am

[Mackenzie]

Woooooow.... That's some audacity rightthere...

[lookatreestar]

[candycat]

glad to see I'm not the only one who thought it was a bit strange!

[Arduinna]

is he on something? because really.......:

[Halfasianmomma]

Heh, does he also want you to come over to his new place to do his laundry and cook for him?

[shelbean91]

Well, whatever planet he's on, I'd like to go there - have all the pros of a relationship with none of those pesky responsiblities! Wow, what a great place!!

[homewithtwinsmama]

Originally Posted by candycat

But then he called right afterwards to ask me to stay exclusive with him (i.e. not see anyone else - like that's my priority now anyway!!) and to ask if he runs out of money this month if I could please cover his rent next month. And to keep paying his cell phone bill cos he wants to get a new smartphone next month.

Really?



Shouldn't HE be trying to pay ME money for, you know, OUR KIDS? No, uh, never mind, guess not.

I'm flabbergasted, really, but whatever. He's out, that's good enough for now.

What was your response? Mine would be unprintable.

[candycat]

I was brazenly noncommittal and managed to say absolutely nothing concrete in the conversation. Kind of like my response to my toddlers when they want something completely ridiculous as a present. A lot of "oh really, aha, that's interesting." Essentially I was envisioning the dancing chocolate cupcakes recommended in the other thread.

[GranoLLLy-girl]

Originally Posted by candycat

I was brazenly noncommittal and managed to say absolutely nothing concrete in the conversation. Kind of like my response to my toddlers when they want something completely ridiculous as a present. A lot of "oh really, aha, that's interesting." Essentially I was envisioning the dancing chocolate cupcakes recommended in the other thread.

This is excellent. You have a much better attitude than I have had regarding my x walking out.
I go through being dumbfounded to angry and then once in a while I think: this is so much nicer being alone--those moments are fleeting, however.

You are already farther along than most in your boundaries--keep those in tact.

[candycat]

OMG.

Speaking of boundaries.

First morning he's gone he calls me at 6 am (like 5 mins ago) to tell me he gave himself alcohol poisoning and would I please drive him to the doctor.

FOR FREAKING REAL?

OK, so now I'm looking up directions to his apartment and getting the kids up before they're normally awake so I can drive him. Wtf. FIRST. MORNING.

[Latte Mama]

Alcohol poisoning from drinking? Mama you CAN say no. Just NO. He's a big boy now and he'll be just fine on his own. YOU have to believe that.

[Hey Mama!]

Tell him to call an ambulance.

[candycat]

Well this was ridiculous. I did tell him to call an ambulance but he asked and asked and so I said fine. So I go there. 25 min drive more or less, kids still groggy from getting up so quickly. He KNOWS I'm in the parking lot but calls an ambulance from there saying he doesn't want me to drive him. I have to explain to the kids why daddy's furniture is across town and why is he lying on the floor in a little helpless ball. Ambulance people show up two mins later, there's like TEN of them, he kind of freaks out that there's so many people, he SITS UP and has a NORMAL CONVERSATION WITH THEM. They tell him they can just have me drive him still, but he says no, he'd rather go with THEM. So they take him away and the (really really nice) ambulance guy is all asking me if he has a history of mental illness and all this stuff and I'm just... ugh.

Then I leave and while I'm putting the kids in the car his new neighbors are all coming out to stand in bunches as I try to load the kids in the car and this crazy lady starts telling me that Jesus loves me (I say thanks and ignore her but she keeps telling me) and how this is a sign that we're living in sin and we should get married (I think she had the wrong idea of our relationship!).

That's IT. I'm DONE. I am SO, SO, DONE!!!!!!!!

Next time he pulls this *I'll* call the ambulance for him and tell them he has EXTENSIVE mental health issues. Because, well, he does.

[Aridel]

Originally Posted by candycat

Well this was ridiculous. I did tell him to call an ambulance but he asked and asked and so I said fine. So I go there. 25 min drive more or less, kids still groggy from getting up so quickly. He KNOWS I'm in the parking lot but calls an ambulance from there saying he doesn't want me to drive him. I have to explain to the kids why daddy's furniture is across town and why is he lying on the floor in a little helpless ball. Ambulance people show up two mins later, there's like TEN of them, he kind of freaks out that there's so many people, he SITS UP and has a NORMAL CONVERSATION WITH THEM. They tell him they can just have me drive him still, but he says no, he'd rather go with THEM. So they take him away and the (really really nice) ambulance guy is all asking me if he has a history of mental illness and all this stuff and I'm just... ugh.

Then I leave and while I'm putting the kids in the car his new neighbors are all coming out to stand in bunches as I try to load the kids in the car and this crazy lady starts telling me that Jesus loves me (I say thanks and ignore her but she keeps telling me) and how this is a sign that we're living in sin and we should get married (I think she had the wrong idea of our relationship!).

That's IT. I'm DONE. I am SO, SO, DONE!!!!!!!!

Next time he pulls this *I'll* call the ambulance for him and tell them he has EXTENSIVE mental health issues. Because, well, he does.

Good for you! He is going to be who he is, but you don't have to feed into it, and can set up and keep those boundaries!

[Ione]

Based on a quick google search for the symptoms of alcohol poisoning and the mayo clinic's page on the subject (http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/alc...CTION=symptoms), it sounds like he wasn't suffering from alcohol poisoning but rather from either a simple, old-fashioned hangover or from a desire to jerk your chain.

[candycat]

Edited by candycat - 12/25/10 at 4:56am

[smeep]

Wow, mama. I'm sooooo sorry! Don't play into his games again. If he tries ANYTHING like that, do what you said before, call 9-1-1 for him and tell them he has a history of mental health issues and a history of involving 9-1-1 for non-emergent reasons. Again, I'm so sorry. The whole story is hilarious to me, but also heartbreaking because you should never have to go through that.

[ian'smommaya]

do not play into his games. i know its hard to do, really, but he is an adult. and needs to do his thing without being able to yank you around.