Originally Posted by luvmybaby333
Wow. I'm sorry Jaime... He honestly sounds like a freaking loon. After all his time spent as a father, does he not realize that it COSTS MONEY to raise children? They need things. They are little people. He couldn't exist for free, what on earth makes him think that his two sons can?
He seems to be really out of touch with reality, IMO.
I'm sorry you're having to deal with that.
I had to come back to this thread as my ex gets ever closer to his Father Of The Year award. He never did chip in for school supplies and all the "extras" that come with a new school year (our school, like more & more schools, sends out a huge list of things to bring on the first day not just for the student but for the classroom!), book fair money & all the activity fees coming up, replenishing his cafeteria account, backpack, lunch box, haircut, clothes, etc. I did not ask for help with these extras; ex is well aware of them (our son is in 4th grade) and in fact asked me if I'd paid for this & that. Which I had. Apparently it was idle curiosity because he never offered. Again, this is someone who makes a lot of money, and ironically has a job writing for a well-known financial magazine. And yet has no idea that these things cost a lot of extra money.
Because two days ago he said he was giving me a check so he could order a package of our son's school photos, and said there was $14.00 extra in the check which "should be plenty for his pencils". PENCILS? When I thanked him for his generosity, he angrily reminded me (again) that he goes "above and beyond" for merely giving me the amount of child support required by our divorce agreement. Yes, $14 above and beyond, and that's under duress.
This rant comes about because now I get a message from him that he's bringing our son home late, that "we need to change the return time from now on"... as if he just gets to decide these things on a whim. The arrogance is galling. Especially in light of his threats to reduce child support, his concurrent demand for more time with our child is just... well...