leaning more and more to UCing.

[southernmommie]

Hi everyone. The further into this pg I get, the more I don't want to go to a hospital. And it's too late in the game for a midwife home birth because we can't afford to pay up front and have our insurance reimburse us. That's how they roll here. I've looked into it late in the game with pg #3. I still have to call the free standing birth center to see if I "qualify" for their care since I am diagnosed Gestational Diabetic. Not sure on that one. I'm not on insulin shots and am doing good with the glyburide and diet and exercise. I've read a few websites that had home births while on the shots. I'm not into the interference and all that the hospital will "require" me to do while in labor. I've also started last night with Hypnobabies. I will need it. My last labor with #4 was a little scary. The anesthesiologist punctured too far when giving me the epidural and I almost choked on my own spit because it numbed me up to my throat. I had to have a suction tube so I could suction out my spit for half an hour or more and had to fight to stay awake and not pass out while doing this. All while my hubby went downstairs to have a smoke since we thought all was well now that I had my epidural. So NOT wanting to go back to the hospital with this one again KNOWING that I will be hooked up to everything so they can monitor baby. I already am having a big baby and I carry lots of fluid naturally. Now they are monitoring him very closely since I am actually GD now. I've already been told that I WILL NOT go past my due date. My first, DS8, was born 9lbs. 15.4 oz. with NO problems during delivery, in a hospital also, while on epidural, at 40wks 5 days. So I KNOW that I can deliver a big baby at home while NOT lying down since I did it previously lying down.

Wow. Didn't realize it would wind up this long. Thanks for reading.

[southernmommie]

Forgot to say, the whole reason why I posted....

I am wanting to birth at home, but don't know how to tell hubby. I REALLY want him to be supportive and helpful during birthing.

[southernmommie]

I couldn't figure out how to just come out and tell hubby I wanted to have the baby at home. I did tell him that I was NOT going to the hospital to have this baby, but told him that I wanted to transfer my prenatal care to the birthing center. It wasn't until the next day that even that wasn't going well for me. So while I was at the hospital getting my weekly NST done, I texted him that I wanted a homebirth. (He doesn't know that there is a difference between a "homebirth" which is usually with a midwife in attendance and an UC birth.) He was answering the texts before that one and the ones after that one, but not that one. So maybe he's processing it in his head. I know I will eventually, sooner rather than later, bring it up again.

[MeesterMama]

I found the more I educated my hubby, talked to him about things, let him read some info on it, watch some UC's on youtube and read books like "emergency childbirth" so he could be prepared he became more on board and now says he would never go back to the hospital.

[southernmommie]

I have a couple of books already that he could read. If he'd be willing to read them. I also printed out the Emergency Childbirth book that I got off here in pdf and have it in a binder. I already have a birth kit I bought when I was pg with #3 and was thinking about it. But I pulled a groin muscle and wanted midwives helf with positions that wouldn't hurt. I caved and had #4 in a hospital and it sucked. I want nothing to do with them. And now with me being Gestational Diabetic, they want to do MORE. I'm so over it. I want peace. And anytime I think of having baby here at home, I have peace. I've already asked dr. at last appointment what they would do IF baby was hypoglycemic. I've looked into everything. I already have big babies. I've already had a 10 pounder, my first. He kind of paved the way for the rest of them. Lol. I just need the confidence to start the conversation with hubby.

[PlunderBunny]

Good luck! I haven't talked to my husband about it yet either. I know it's what I want though, and I've even had dreams about an awesome birth experience. I honestly have no clue how to even mention the idea of giving birth at home and alone to my husband.

[southernmommie]

omg! omg! omg! Hubby brought up if the midwife has called me today yet about the homebirth. I told him that was just for the prenatal care and that I wasn't planning on anyone being here. We talked about it. He's nervous about catching the baby without any "trained professionals" here. I told him that I've already read and researched everything I could get my hands on. (I was leaning this route with #3 so already had a lot of info from then.) He's okay with it, but is still going to be nervous. I told him he wouldn't be human if he wasn't nervous about it. But I have 2 books he can read. I had more, but gave them away and had to rebuy these 2. I like them better out of the ones I had. So he's for it now!!!! Just admittedly a little scared! But we're doing hypnobabies, so he should be able to do the fear release when we get to that part!

Woohoo!!!