Need to vent a bit. Have a friend who always seems to need to 'one-up' me.*Updated situation... - Page 2
Geez, she sounds really insensitive. I bet the break-in was so scary, I'm sorry that happened!
It sounds like you're making a good choice by backing off from her for now.
Only, : maybe you could let her "borrow" a few more status updates first? Stuff that'll be really obvious to her IRL friends that she was lying? "My dd loves to recite sonnets!"
Or "I just read The Higher Education of J. Philip Stone by Paul Sheldon"
Or post about a book you did read and make a huge deal about something that never happened.
And a couple hours after she "borrows" the plant, you delete your post.
I hate talking about this, but I figure venting about it here will keep me from whining about this in rl....maybe, lol.
I have a very good friend who has a dd very close in age to mine. We do a lot together, as do our children. She's always been a little eccentric and outgoing ( which I LOVE her for btw) but lately she has been seeming to need to 'one-up' me on almost EVERYTHING I talk to her about. Mostly this takes place on facebook, lame I know. I'll post something about my dd so my mother can know and not even an hour later my friend posts something about her dd, similar, but different and always just a bit 'better' than what my dd just did( ex. I say "dd just counted to 10, I'm proud". Friend says, " my dd just counted to ten in french, yup my kid's smarter than you!") Or I'll tell her about something interesting I did or read and I'll see later that day that she has posted about it on facebook claiming it was something she did and that everyone should be super impressed with her. It has come to the point that I don't feel I can use this particular social network to convey things to my family anymore, for fear of her jumping all over it. I felt for a little while that I was just being silly or maybe jealous in a way that she seemed to be taking ideas from me and getting attention for it, but since it has been involving things about my child I'm just plain annoyed with her.
Has anyone had friends like this before? I am being too sensitive? I'm usually such a confrontation avoider but I'm feeling like I should bring it up before I let it stew for too long and ruin our friendship.
The way she related to you at your home/playdate, however, that you described in a later post? I would talk with her about how critical she is. Does she realize it? I would talk it out with her, without accusing her or ending your friendship, and see how she responds to your experience of her. This, I would do in person!
Good luck. If it is a neighbor or acquaintance who is critical of me, I tend to ignore it or gracefully let it slide depending on the situation. But if a friend were treating me like that IRL? I would have to address it early on and find out where their heart is.
Sometimes when we finally back up a bit and look at our friends and how they treat us, we realize they were never really our friends. I think this woman is just bad news.
"Linda, what do you like about this person?"
I had to really think about it, and eventually realized I didn't like much at all about her.
I can handle online issues for the most part but the fact that I was feeling vulnerable and shook up and she treated me like dirt was just the last straw.I told dh that I'm not going to invite her to things anymore or make a point of hanging out. I feel like I've put up with a TON of bs from her and she can figure out whatever it is that she's dealing with that's making her so mean on her own.
I know it has been a while but things seem to have fixed themselves... well in a way at least. I think she caught on that there was some weirdness and has been backing away from the friendship on her own. The funny thing is that, while this is what I wanted, it still stings a bit. I am being obviously replaced by a 'new' friend and not invited to things that I used to do with this friend and another mutual friend of ours. One would think that the 'high school' drama would have stayed in high school! Thank you for all of the good advice, it's nice to have these forums to come and talk about things and be taken seriously
Even though it does *sting* a bit to see the friend move on with your other friend just remember the way she made you feel. I feel sorry for the other friend,because eventually that negativity will be turned on to her.Right now they are in the honeymoon phase,lol.Either that or they might both be nagative.Be polite to them when encountered, but fill your day with others.
Glad you are OK following the stranger invasion incident. While I am crazy about locking all doors and windows to prevent(well lessen) the risk of home invasion I would NEVER berate someone for leaving their doors unlocked. If you look at the cases where families have faced home invasion there are few if any cases where the adult(s) were able to fight of the person(s).She can talk all she wants,but she can only guess what she would do.Only those who have been through it can tell you how it felt.Most are to stunned to even react.
Wishing you more peaceful days ahead!