How do you find a school

[va_lkywmn]

My DS was diagnosed with SPD - Sensory Seeking a couple years ago and we have added ADHD recently. In addition, during the ADHD evaluation the psychologist noted that some of his scores fell in the 99th percentile while some were in the 2nd percentile. Specifically, his motor processing/planning seems to be significantly delayed.
We have had him at the local Waldorf school for a couple of year and he is now in 2nd grade. While I love the school/method etc., they have flat out refused to implement any type of accomodation for him. No behavior report card, disc to sit on etc. Based on this, it is highly unlikely that he will be able to continue there. I am so ticked right now since 90% of their program is perfect for him if I could just get a little extra help he would be fine.
I toured the local public school and they would provide any/all accomodations I need, but it seems like the method of teaching, distraction level, recess/movement during the day etc. are all way off from where they would need to be. I am not convinced it is an appropriate environment for him either.
I have thought about moving to be in the "best" district for my child, but I have no idea how you even begin to evaluate that.
I would love to hear suggestions on how to find the best fit in school
Thanks!

[Chinaberry]

So you do have an IEP?
That's a bummer about the Waldorf; I picture them as more open to alternative evaluations and processes.
Anyway, if you're already touring schools, talking to staff members, thinking about transitions, I would think you're on the right track. You can't just rely on the Greatschools ratings. In every floundering school there are wonderful teachers, and in every glittering well-funded one, some rotten eggs. You're doing your job! You're doing your diligence to protect your investment in your son.

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by Chinaberry

Anyway, if you're already touring schools, talking to staff members, thinking about transitions, I would think you're on the right track.

agreed. And when you find something that seem promising, ask for a trial day (or 3!).

You can't just rely on the Greatschools ratings. In every floundering school there are wonderful teachers, and in every glittering well-funded one, some rotten eggs.

yep, and the best school for one child isn't the best for another one.

[AnalogWife]

Newer ma here, even newer at SN, and I'm really disappointed to hear that Waldorf etc schools are so unaccommodating--what's so hard about providing reports on his behavior, if you want them? Also, re: the seat disc...could he bring his own? Or do they refuse that too.

We live in an area that has Quaker, Reggio, Waldorf, Montessori, Parochial, etc...I had such high hopes to keep my DS out of the public school system, that dream gets deader every day. Lots of luck finding the right fit for your little one.

[Linda on the move]

Originally Posted by AnalogWife

Newer ma here, even newer at SN, and I'm really disappointed to hear that Waldorf etc schools are so unaccommodating--

don't take that from the post.

Every school is different, every teacher is different. A different Waldorf school might be very accommodating, or there may still be something the mom can make happen at that school. "I'm taking my child out unless..." is a powerful thing in some places.

My ASD currently attends a private progressive school that is wonderful for her and very accommodating, and she had an overall positive experience in public school.

Don't write ANYTHING off!!!