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post #41 of 133
i never meant to imply that his use of a condom was his sin and not yours.

as wives, we are supposed to get our husbands to heaven. turning a blind eye to the sin doesn't help on the journey to heaven.

i wish i could help. i wish i had words to make you feel better.
post #42 of 133
I saw the posting about the Retroville. I went to one with my first husband. Divorced and annulment granted from the Church (Thank you , God.) I am sure they are different from place to place but if your DH is not into the Church teachings this may really make him mad. I tend to agree with the need for control in the bedroom. Maybe HE is terrified of another pregnancy right now.So, he wants to make sure that he "keeps to himself." I think that you could talk to your priest but I think some time and tenderness from you and he will come around. We all respond to stressors differently, you know? I will pray for you and your family. Shower him with love and pray for him.
post #43 of 133
gothnurse - Are you able to elaborate more on Retroville? I looked into going with my husband this past summer, but we weren't able to make the time commitments. But I've kept it in my head as something to do in the future when my schedule settles down. I had heard it was very good.
post #44 of 133
Not to niggle, but it's actually called Retrouvaille - a French word meaning "rediscovery".
post #45 of 133
Hello mamas, I am hoping you will let me join your thread even though I am not Catholic. My whole family is Catholic (I never ended up being baptized b/c when I was born my dad was not practicing and then my parents got divorced and I was raised by my mom).

My son recently began kindergarten in a private Catholic school, and I am getting some super hard questions.

Example
Where is heaven?
Why did Jesus die?

I am beginning some training on Monday that the school runs for non-Catholic parents and I am really looking forward to it.
But I thought I could maybe join your thread and learn some more. I am considering beginning going to church with my kids (my husband is not interested). I have no idea on the process of becoming Catholic as an adult.
post #46 of 133
JustVanessa - Welcome! I suggest going to the parish office and asking about RCIA classes. It's a whole process to join the Church, and they should have some good information for you there.

Blessings!
post #47 of 133
Hi!
I'm new to the board. I am a convert to the Catholic Church, received Easter 2004. I came from a protestant upbringing and have several relatives who were/are Wycliffe missionaries, so I'm a bit of an anomaly. I do my best to learn and be faithful to the Church. She is a pearl, indeed.

We have 6 kids, going on more, due in March. We will find out for sure on Wednesday whether there are one or two in there. We currently have 4 boys and 2 girls, so two more girls would just be swell. LOL I don't think we are going to ask about gender on the scan, though. I like the surprise. It makes the hard work of labor that much more rewarding at the end, and we have plenty of clothing for either gender. The early weeks, I found myself greatly stressing out over the possibility and anxious! I recalled the Sts. Cosmas and Damian one night, though I couldn't remember sweet Cosmas' actual name! I have adopted these Sts. as my patron's this pregnancy and it really has allowed me to relax and stop worrying. They were twins, obviously born at home in their day and age, and also physicians, back when physicians ethics were stronger than today. Thank the Lord for this community which is not bound by time or place!

I'm looking forward to getting to know other mamas who are trying to live their faith. It's rather isolating here, because although over 30% of my area are statistically Catholic, we have a really liberal priest and a parish with not much support for moms or families. I've been struggling a lot, especially since I put our kids in the Catholic school and really discovered what an anomaly we are... By far the largest family, half the parents are divorced...

Boysmama-
I keep sticking my nose into these NFP conversations... It sounds like there are a lot of sensitive variables involved in your and your husbands situation. We have not always been on the same page in the bedroom, either. But even when Dh has chaffed against NFP (which has always required a lot of abstinence for us), when he realized how risky condom use during the fertile time really is, it made the issue moot. Condom failure percentage is very high. I would not want to risk that if pregnancy was not a good idea at the moment. We have also found "Good News about Sex & Marriage" helpful. It lays out the foundations of Church teaching in a very user friendly question and answer format. We went through it a few pages at a time together at bedtime. God bless you and I'll say a prayer for you!
post #48 of 133
mylilmonkeys - So glad you could join us! I hope one day we'll have a large family like yours. Did your husband convert as well?
post #49 of 133
Hi ladies, I had my little guy October 12! He's wonderful, such a blessing! I wound up with my 3rd c/s though, and my poor uterus isn't looking so hot That's a little depressing. We knew we were going to need to put a few years between the next babies because of financial issues, but thinking I might need to postpone indefiitely is really upsetting.
post #50 of 133
Can anyone help me explain to a 5 year old who killed Jesus?
post #51 of 133
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Where is heaven?
Why did Jesus die?
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Can anyone help me explain to a 5 year old who killed Jesus?
Heaven is where God is.
Jesus died so that we can go to heaven.
People killed Jesus because of their sin.

Hope that helps.
post #52 of 133
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Heaven is where God is.
Jesus died so that we can go to heaven.
People killed Jesus because of their sin.

Hope that helps.
It does a little with the last one. He unfortunately wants directions to heaven
post #53 of 133
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Hi ladies, I had my little guy October 12! He's wonderful, such a blessing! I wound up with my 3rd c/s though, and my poor uterus isn't looking so hot That's a little depressing. We knew we were going to need to put a few years between the next babies because of financial issues, but thinking I might need to postpone indefiitely is really upsetting.
Congratulations!!! I am so happy for you Enjoy your wee lad and don't worry about your future children - God will provide and guide You've been through a lot the past year, you deserve to take a breather and have a beautiful baby moon!

would love to see pics when you are able~!
post #54 of 133
Oops! I realized that I never formally introduced myself. I am a born and raised Catholic mother to four children and an RN in the local ER. My husband is not Catholic but he is Christian. Our children are Catholic.

Congratulations, CherryBomb! How exciting to have a new little person in the family!

JustVanessa, I wish more people wanted directions to heaven-the world would be a nicer place!
post #55 of 133
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mylilmonkeys - So glad you could join us! I hope one day we'll have a large family like yours. Did your husband convert as well?
My husband is a cradle catholic, who wasn't really catechized. So, no, he didn't actually convert, but he was Confirmed at the same time I was received. He has grown significantly in his faith over the years.
post #56 of 133
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Originally Posted by CherryBomb View Post
Hi ladies, I had my little guy October 12! He's wonderful, such a blessing! I wound up with my 3rd c/s though, and my poor uterus isn't looking so hot That's a little depressing. We knew we were going to need to put a few years between the next babies because of financial issues, but thinking I might need to postpone indefiitely is really upsetting.
Congratulations!! I haven't researched this much, but there may be supplements you could look into to help your uterus heal well.
post #57 of 133
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Welcome new people.

Cherrybomb, I was in the same place as you with my 3rd c-section. My ob spent a few hours repairing and cleaning up the mess which was my uterus. Dh and I were told in no uncertain terms we were never ever to have any more children. Fast forward 15 months later, the ob assisting came in the room late I was already cut open and she thought it was my first c-section based on how great my uterus looked. After having my 5th the OB said my uterus was in good shape could handle at least 5 more.
post #58 of 133
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Congratulations!!! I am so happy for you Enjoy your wee lad and don't worry about your future children - God will provide and guide You've been through a lot the past year, you deserve to take a breather and have a beautiful baby moon!

would love to see pics when you are able~!
Thanks! I've got some pictures up here- http://www.facebook.com/#!/photo.php...476.1313738387

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Cherrybomb, I was in the same place as you with my 3rd c-section. My ob spent a few hours repairing and cleaning up the mess which was my uterus. Dh and I were told in no uncertain terms we were never ever to have any more children. Fast forward 15 months later, the ob assisting came in the room late I was already cut open and she thought it was my first c-section based on how great my uterus looked. After having my 5th the OB said my uterus was in good shape could handle at least 5 more.
That's great to hear! My lower uterine segment is paper thin, which my OB said doesn't mean I'll have trouble carrying babies, it just makes closing my uterus really difficult (the on call OB that did the surgery had a tough time because basically my uterus was falling apart where he was trying to suture!) And I have a lot of scar tissue that took awhile to dissect through. Blah. Anyway, I'm so glad your uterus is looking good and I hope I have some good news on that in the future! I have a friend who's had six c/s and her uterus is still going strong, too.
post #59 of 133
Hey Mamas... I would like to ask for your prayers so I could hear what it is that God is asking of us. It seems like all the doors are closed: Our dd is 5.5 and there have been no babies since then. It also seems that the doors are closed to adoption, although we would be happy to adopt. Since I have given my life to being a mom, it is sometimes really hard to have an only child. I am praying that God show me what to do with all my time.

Thanks to anyone who may want to say a little prayer for us. I read her often, although I seldom post.
post #60 of 133
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Hey Mamas... I would like to ask for your prayers so I could hear what it is that God is asking of us. It seems like all the doors are closed: Our dd is 5.5 and there have been no babies since then. It also seems that the doors are closed to adoption, although we would be happy to adopt. Since I have given my life to being a mom, it is sometimes really hard to have an only child. I am praying that God show me what to do with all my time.

Thanks to anyone who may want to say a little prayer for us. I read her often, although I seldom post.
Can you open your heart and home to foster children?
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