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post #21 of 27
9/25/10 at 6:50pm
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post #22 of 27
9/26/10 at 12:32am
Theia
I lost my sister 5 years ago after a lifetime of illness and my best friend to suicide 2 years ago.
I'm so sorry for your loss.
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post #23 of 27
9/26/10 at 8:00pm
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost a dear family friend named Ed 6 years ago this month to suicide. Hope you can get some answers. Be gentle with yourself.
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post #24 of 27
9/27/10 at 4:23pm
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We are back at my parents home. I am staying a few weeks while I help them sort through his belongings and our own emotions.

It's been exactly one week since our world was turned upside down.

Many of you have offered great support and wisdom. I am sure I will be here frequently now as I continue to seek guidance from those who have had this unfortunate experience occur in their own lives.

I know up-thread I saw some book recommendations. I would greatly appreciate more. I imagine I will be in a state of struggling with the acceptance of his death for some time. I already have an excellent counselor, she works with me and my PTSD. She is also well versed in suicide and suicidal ideation. The thing is, apparently my brother attempted suicide about a month before and the police were called and he ran away. But he never told anyone in the family that he was suicidal. To me that means he was determined. He was going to do it and wasn't unsure of his decision nor did he wish to be stopped. He was very sad and now he is free of pain, weakness and I know he feels joy now because his whole family went to him to bring him home.
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post #25 of 27
9/29/10 at 5:34pm
i was the last person to see my brother alive. he was living at my parents house and i was there with my dds. he told me he was going to take a nap, and then he hung himself. i have decided that he was very determined. he could have told me right then. he could have reached out for help. but he didn't want it.
it hasn't helped, but i know that the only way to stop someone is if they tell us. it is SO hard to accept that though.
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post #26 of 27
9/29/10 at 5:42pm
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rachel_eva - I am so sorry to hear of the manner of how you lost your brother. It helps to know that I am not alone in suffering through this. I mean, technically I know I'm not alone, but in times like this the support of those who understand (or at the very least mean well) is so valuable. Thank you for sharing your experience. It means a lot to me.
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post #27 of 27
10/4/10 at 9:08pm
Theia- feel free to PM me if you need too. it does help to hear other people's stories. it feels like you fall through the looking glass with this tragedy. you just want to grab the world by the shoulders and shake it and scream " DON"T YOU GET IT? HE'S DEAD! WTF IS WRONG WITH YOU ALL?"

but it doesn't stop.
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