DH's logic lol

[AFWife]

Whatever works, right?

He told me the other day that the only way to definitively know which is "better" is to keep this son intact and see how it goes. He's going into the whole situation with an open mind.

So, it's official...Baby boy will remain intact! (Now pray that we have zero problems!)

[KaylaBeanie]

I've been following your posts on here, and I just want to say that I'm so glad you guys came to a conclusion. Everyone wins here...you and hubby have easier diaper changes, baby boy doesn't have to go through so much pain and healing

[2lilsweetfoxes]

Yay!

And seconds on the no "problems", as most problems--aren't. That you don't get an unknowlegable doc who says "he must be circumcised to deal with xyz".

[Crunchy Frog]

Remember, if anything ever comes up that seems like a "problem" or a doc says he needs to be circed or wants to retract him, come here first.

Most things that look like "problems", especially to doctors, aren't really.

And remember, only clean what is seen.

[serendipity22]

(Now pray that we have zero problems!)

IMO 99% of problems are either caused by meddling or in rare cases a congenital deformity.

The more you worry, the more likely you will have problems. Don't worry and you will have no problems. Its a non-issue really.

Its really the least of your trouble: feeding, changing, keeping him warm, bathing, comforting, keeping him amused, preventing injuries (very important) or swallowing things wtc. will keep you busy.

[fairymom]

Yay! So happy for you!

Originally Posted by Crunchy Frog

Remember, if anything ever comes up that seems like a "problem" or a doc says he needs to be circed or wants to retract him, come here first.

Most things that look like "problems", especially to doctors, aren't really.

And remember, only clean what is seen.

And rememeber also you have a lot of help off MDC too! Comment on our boards too!

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by serendipity22

Its really the least of your trouble: feeding, changing, keeping him warm, bathing, comforting, keeping him amused, preventing injuries (very important) or swallowing things wtc. will keep you busy.

I don't know if you were talking purely penis with that or not...but it made me laugh because our first son just had his first bleeding head wound this past weekend! (I can laugh because it wasn't serious and everyone I called said, "And now it begins...")

[Yulia_R]

Don't even give this part a second thought/look and your lil one will be just fine! Do remember though to make sure no doctor/nurse/care provider pulls the foreskin back...this is exactly what usually starts problems. Also doctors jump to caths WAY too often, most of the time when there is really no need. Remember that even if your son ever needs a cath (let's say a surgery), make sure it is done without retraction (as it should be). Some NICU nurses are really good at it, so be sure to advocate for your son, since medical professionals in the US are often so ignorant about normal male genitalia.

[ancoda]

[liseux]

I am so happy for you guys to come to an agreement, I know it wasn't easy! I think I've told you that my own brothers are different & both of my parents agreed & my intact bro never had issues. Its so easy to deal with, like wiping off a finger

[titania8]

great news! i've been following your story and was wondering if you had come to an agreement yet. fantastic!

[PuppyFluffer]

What a wonderful update! Your husband has really opened up his mind and his heart and I am so happy for you both.

[Harmony96]

[lawmama1984]

GREAT news!!

If you ever have what you think is a problem (which, trust me, probably isn't but I am also a first generation intactivist so I stumble across normal things and have had my moments of freaking out), do NOT ask a doctor first! Either come here or, if you know midwives, ask them. Trust me...it will save you a lot of headache!

[AFWife]

How do I learn about teaching HIM to care for it? (our son)

[Fyrestorm]

Originally Posted by AFWife

How do I learn about teaching HIM to care for it? (our son)

By example. At the first few diaper changes, make it demonstration. That way you can explain what you're doing and why without it being a lecture.

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by Fyrestorm

By example. At the first few diaper changes, make it demonstration. That way you can explain what you're doing and why without it being a lecture.

Sorry. I meant how do I learn about teaching our son to care for it? DH will do fine. (I should have clarified better but I had a toddler in my lap!)

Like, I've heard that once it's retracted he's supposed to pull it back to pee? Is that right?

[Fyrestorm]

Originally Posted by AFWife

Sorry. I meant how do I learn about teaching our son to care for it? DH will do fine. (I should have clarified better but I had a toddler in my lap!)

Like, I've heard that once it's retracted he's supposed to pull it back to pee? Is that right?

sorry - I totally thought you meant DH

Pulling back to urinate is a personal choice, some men do, some don't. He might be at an age that you won't even know he's become retractable. so it might not actually ever come up.

if it does, in the shower, retract, rinse replace...nothing to it. He'll probable do that without any prompting. Retractable foreskin is quite the fun toy for a growing boy.

[AFWife]

Originally Posted by Fyrestorm

sorry - I totally thought you meant DH

Pulling back to urinate is a personal choice, some men do, some don't. He might be at an age that you won't even know he's become retractable. so it might not actually ever come up.

if it does, in the shower, retract, rinse replace...nothing to it. He'll probable do that without any prompting. Retractable foreskin is quite the fun toy for a growing boy.

See! I'm learning something. When I spoke to DH's uncle (intact) he said he was instructed to retract frequently (peeing, shower, etc...) and now the foreskin is stuck behind the glans...not tightly so it's not an issue...but I know that's not normal.

[Night_Nurse]

Originally Posted by AFWife

Like, I've heard that once it's retracted he's supposed to pull it back to pee? Is that right?

My son started pulling his foreskin back to pee but we never told him to. He just started doing it on his own as a personal preference. I have reminded him a few times to be sure to replace the foreskin forward, though. My son is school aged but young enough that he doesn't care if his family still sees him pee!