keep your hands out of my bra

[curious&eager]

Just saying! Ok, so of course my 14 month old sucking on one breast does not bother me in the slightest. But, when his hand reaches up my shirt and under my bra and he starts to twiddle with the other one, it really feels like he is invading my personal space. I'm just venting- keep your hands to yourself little man

[mamadaan]

Nipple twiddling

Originally Posted by curious&eager

JBut, when his hand reaches up my shirt and under my bra and he starts to twiddle with the other one, it really feels like he is invading my personal space.

If it helps, it is fairly normal behavior. Some people think it is a way for the child to increase the milk flow at the breast (a bit like double pumping). There are some suggestions in this article on breastfeeding manners.

[sparklefairy]

IMO, if it's uncomfortable for you, you don't have to allow it to happen. Yes, it's normal behavior. But so is setting limits, especially on how you permit others to touch you, even your children.

I let my first do it, and it was difficult to get her to stop in a few months when it started to really bother me. I never let my second start and it really wasn't a big deal.

[physmom]

Ugh, I HATE this! DD is always trying to do this OR pinch or poke me the entire time she's nursing. It DRIVES ME NUTS!!!! I never let her do it but she's a stubborn one and it's been going on for probably about a year now.

ETA: many times DD is just bored so if I read her a book while nursing she doesn't do it. Also, she likes to point out my facial features or make faces while nursing, which also cuts back on this. But when I'm trying to put her to sleep at night this is the biggest pain!!!

[ancoda]

Do you have a nursing necklace, or something else to help keep his hands busy? I had one for my third child and it did help a bit.
It is normal, but that does not mean that you have to let him to it. Tell him that that is not ok, remove his hand from your bra and place it where you do want it. That may be on his blanket, or some small toy or whatever works for you and him.

[curious&eager]

I never bought a nursing necklace, but I wish I had one. I usually keep his hands occupied with a toy, but he's hit me a few too many times with those toys, so that's why his hands have been free. I take him off when he starts to try to climb over and around me while he's eating. I take his hand out of my shirt over and over again during a meal, especially the bedtime one. His nursing tricks don't bother me too much, at least he's not hurting me. I just thought this trick was funny and I thought I'd share. My husband gets even more jealous when he sees DS's hand wandering up there.

[curious&eager]

Good article suggested. I liked it.

[grniys]

Originally Posted by sparklefairy

IMO, if it's uncomfortable for you, you don't have to allow it to happen. Yes, it's normal behavior. But so is setting limits, especially on how you permit others to touch you, even your children.

I let my first do it, and it was difficult to get her to stop in a few months when it started to really bother me. I never let my second start and it really wasn't a big deal.

Yeah, my 19 month old tries to, but I'm not comfortable with it so I just move his hand away and tell him that's mommy's space. He still tries occasionally, but for the most part he gets that's not his toy. LOL.

[Ellien C]

My little one LOVED to stick her hand down my shirt as a comfort thing. She even did it DH. She just liked to feel our chests.