Equating a pink shirt with a .357 Magnum or a 10" Bowie knife? Ridiculous.
And not every disabled person wants to be "fixed." Some are quite happy with the way they are and wouldn't change a thing.
Can we touch on how it's perfectly acceptable and "adorable" for little girls to wear "tomboy" type clothes? Girls can wear clothes in any color - blue, brown, green, black, yellow, orange, purple, pink, red, you name it - and it's completely acceptable. It's just gosh darn precious when little Mary dresses up in her daddy's suit and tie. But, if little Tommy comes out wearing a pair of his mommy's heels then it's panic time - oh no, he'll turn into a queer and wouldn't THAT be awful? Bullcrap.
AFM - my 4yo DS loves pink and purple. Why not? They are pretty colors and men are definitely able to enjoy pretty things. He has quite a few shirts that are purple and one button down shirt that's pink. I'd dare anyone to tell me to my face that I'm leading my son down a path to some "disability" because I let him dabble with colors. I thank God everyday that I had parents that allowed me and my brothers to express ourselves as we saw fit. I was made fun of A LOT growing up. I was made fun of if I wore a dress or if I wore more "boyish" clothes. It didn't matter what I wore. But, I had enough self-confidence to be who I was and to express myself as I saw fit, mainly because I had such a supportive family behind me. The same went for my brothers. One is a drummer and has been since he was 6, very rock 'n' roll and experimented with all sorts of hair colors and clothing styles growing up (this was in the 70's and 80's, so you can imagine the fashion
). The other (in Heaven now) was a complete hippie - he looked Jesus in tie-dye - long hair, beard, sandals, jeans and tie-dye shirts. Our parents allowed us to express ourselves and it truly gave us strength and confidence. I'm going the same route with my son. He went through a phase where he carried a purse. Because he's gay? No, because mommy carries one and it was damn handy for him to carry his cars and his coloring books in. He has dolls? Because he's gay? No, because nature/God/whatever you believe gave children an amazing imagination. He's very nurturing with his dolls for the most part. Does that mean he's gay? No, he's acting like his daddy who is very gentle and nurturing. He likes purple, pink and glittery things. Because he's gay? No, because he gets enough blue, green and brown as it is and purple, pink and glitter are way more fun. The point is, you cannot force someone to be gay or straight. They are born that way. No amount of dressing up or dressing down will change that. What matters is how you treat them and whether or not you support them enough through life to give them to confidence to be who they truly are.
One of my childhood friends came from a deeply conservative home. He was definitely dressed masculine, was not allowed to play with his sisters' dolls, played with trucks, cars and planes and played baseball and football. He was quite a football legend in high school. He was very macho and the girls were IN LOVE with him. And he nearly killed himself. Why? Because he was gay. And he was very aware from early on that his parents were forcing him to do things that didn't feel right to him. When he was in his early teens and mom and dad began to expect that he was "not normal" and they took him to doctors, just as a previous poster suggested. His teens years were full of depression and anxiety (which are true
mental disorders, unlike being LGBT). He put on a show for his parents, but inside he was dying. Thankfully, his attempt at suicide was thwarted. He nows lives happily as an "out and proud" gay man, in a committed relationship of almost 10 years and he wears a lot of blue.
Conversely, another boy I grew up with was very "effeminate" and everyone pegged him to be gay. His parents were open-minded and it wouldn't have mattered to them. Now? He's quite straight.
And there's my husband. He wears purple a lot. Part of it is because he looks damn good in purple. The other part is because he's a Viking's fan and that's their color (and no one calls them "f*gs because of their uniforms). He also loves kittens and flowers. I'll be sure to let him know that he's probably secretly gay and that he has a disorder.
I'm just glad that the tides are turning and more people are becoming open-minded. I believe we still have a way to go as far as accepting people, but I see a lot more tolerance in the future. Personally, I don't think boys wearing pink and purple will be much of an issue in the coming years as more people are learning to accept that it's perfectly fine.
You cannot judge a book by it's cover. And no matter how many times you try to remove, change or hide the cover, you will never be able to change the story inside.
P.S. MusicianDad - you rock!