Sister Wives! - Page 9

[JElaineB]

Originally Posted by MamieCole

Robyn said on Oprah that she is still living in her own house down the street, as there isn't room in the big house for her and her kids to have their own space, but kids come and go between both places.

I know, that is why I was wondering if she was referring to Robyn specifically. It sounded to me like she was talking about all of the wives, but maybe she was just referring to Robyn (with whom she does not share a house at the moment).

[BettinaAuSucre]

I *just* started watching this show, so I am a little late to the party. I am polyamorous, which is miles apart from polygamy, but the emotions involved in polyamory and polygamy are the same.

I do think Cody is a bit selfish. I think the woman feeling a bit put-off by Robyn. She said " we aren't married so we dont live together, dur" I was like but you have sex right? And...moved all that way to be together...I mean it just seemed inconsistent in her values. If she is so traditional, then why is she intimate with him before the marriage? And I hated seeing Janelle hurt when she found out Cody had kissed Robyn before their marriage was final. I would've probably been a bit upset too.

I think the three existing wives get along so well, that Robyn probably feels like a complete outsider. I feel bad for the other wives. Robyn is physically completely different from the other women and while i thought it was awesome when she said she wanted to protect both parties feelings by not exposing that little secret, that showed she had everyones feelings in mind, i just don't feeling like she really understands polygamy.

Not to mention that 4 months is a LONG time for courting?!? what the heck was that?! i dunno, maybe i am not highly knowledgable in polygamy, but 4 months doesn't seem like a lot of time to make sure the partner you are choosing is right for your family. Especially if he only sees her once a week.

I had to turn it off to get to bed, but I don't know where i stand on the show. I like that it's exposing the polygamist family dynamic to the public but it can be bad for other polygamists who don't do it the same way they do. I can imagine it's harder for some families to just take another member on in such a short amount of time. Part of me wonders, because of Robyn's seemingly sudden appearance, if he didn't pick up a new partner JUST for the show. So they could see what courting and dating with 3 other wives is like? I just get this sense of unease about Robyn. Not to mention, she cries SO MUCH. I think the other 3 wives are so much more grounded and rational whereas Robyn is a bit more emotional and tries too hard to make them like her.

[JElaineB]

Originally Posted by BettinaAuSucre

I do think Cody is a bit selfish. I think the woman feeling a bit put-off by Robyn. She said " we aren't married so we dont live together, dur" I was like but you have sex right? And...moved all that way to be together...I mean it just seemed inconsistent in her values. If she is so traditional, then why is she intimate with him before the marriage? And I hated seeing Janelle hurt when she found out Cody had kissed Robyn before their marriage was final. I would've probably been a bit upset too.

They were very clear on Oprah that Robyn and Kody didn't have sex before marriage. They did kiss though. Not sure if they did anything in between, but I would doubt it.

[phathui5]

I was like but you have sex right?

Probably not. Theirs is a religious polygamy and when the show had him going to Robin's house before she moved closer, he brought his teens with him.

[gbailey]

Originally Posted by BettinaAuSucre

I *just* started watching this show, so I am a little late to the party. I am polyamorous, which is miles apart from polygamy, but the emotions involved in polyamory and polygamy are the same.

I do think Cody is a bit selfish. I think the woman feeling a bit put-off by Robyn. She said " we aren't married so we dont live together, dur" I was like but you have sex right? And...moved all that way to be together...I mean it just seemed inconsistent in her values. If she is so traditional, then why is she intimate with him before the marriage? And I hated seeing Janelle hurt when she found out Cody had kissed Robyn before their marriage was final. I would've probably been a bit upset too.

I think the three existing wives get along so well, that Robyn probably feels like a complete outsider. I feel bad for the other wives. Robyn is physically completely different from the other women and while i thought it was awesome when she said she wanted to protect both parties feelings by not exposing that little secret, that showed she had everyones feelings in mind, i just don't feeling like she really understands polygamy.

Not to mention that 4 months is a LONG time for courting?!? what the heck was that?! i dunno, maybe i am not highly knowledgable in polygamy, but 4 months doesn't seem like a lot of time to make sure the partner you are choosing is right for your family. Especially if he only sees her once a week.

I had to turn it off to get to bed, but I don't know where i stand on the show. I like that it's exposing the polygamist family dynamic to the public but it can be bad for other polygamists who don't do it the same way they do. I can imagine it's harder for some families to just take another member on in such a short amount of time. Part of me wonders, because of Robyn's seemingly sudden appearance, if he didn't pick up a new partner JUST for the show. So they could see what courting and dating with 3 other wives is like? I just get this sense of unease about Robyn. Not to mention, she cries SO MUCH. I think the other 3 wives are so much more grounded and rational whereas Robyn is a bit more emotional and tries too hard to make them like her.

I especially agree with what I put in bold. I don't think Robyn gets it. I think it's going to be a tougher ride for her when they are all living under one roof.

I mentioned to DH that she seems to spend most of the show in tears. Even when she talked about liking Kody's children she burst into tears.

Did anyone notice (maybe it's just me) Robyn tensing up when Meri mentioned asking her to wear a dress different than the wedding gown for the family picture. There were a few times when Meri talked that I thought Robyn seemed horribly uneasy.

When Kody said goodbye to the other wives and Robyn mentioning that she didn't mind him saying goodbye to Meri alone or something like that, I didn't believe what she was saying. I also think Meri has a lot more power than she likes to give herself credit for having.

[thatgirliknew]

Originally Posted by chel

i was expecting to see them courting "duggar style". no kissing before marriage, not being alone together, etc. the last episode i saw, think i'm one behind, makes me wonder where he spent the night when he visited the girlfriend.

Hmm. I hadn't thought of that until I saw you mention it. Apparently, he didn't kiss the other wives until they were married and he did with Robyn, which ruffled some feathers.

(Sorry if this has already been covered, I wanted to read the whole thread and not just jump in at the end.)

[chel]

ok i think i'm finally caught up.
the wedding episode makes me wonder how much help the wives get from eachother and/or Cody.

the fact that Robyn needed help on her wedding day but no one was there. though honestly wife #3 has a new baby and both #2 and 3 have several other kids to get ready. interesting that Meri, the only one that has just one child, that is a teenager, that could easily help out the other wives, was the one getting Cody ready!

also where it was mentioned (i can't remeber where, saw 3 shows back to back) that #2 wife has to leave early for work so her oldest son is responsible for getting breakfast for his younger siblings. makes me think this is a prime time for a husband or sister wife to step up and help, but no one does. i would think communal meals would make life easier.

[Peppermint Leaf]

does anyone know if this was the only season or if they will continue on?

[CrunchyChristianMama]

I had to miss last night's episodes. Even more sad is that I looked online to see when the reruns would be on, and they aren't re-airing them! What's up with that?

[gbailey]

Originally Posted by Evie's Mama

I had to miss last night's episodes. Even more sad is that I looked online to see when the reruns would be on, and they aren't re-airing them! What's up with that?

They're reairing the episodes on Wednesday from 8 to 9PM and if you have free demand on your cable, I think you can see them there too. Hope that helps

[Starr]

I just watched the last episodes revolving around the wedding. Did anyone else catch when Robyn was talking about how she couldn't understand why her daughter Brianna? was having a meltdown during family pictures and Christine stepped in to remind her that her kids lives are changing and of course they have a lot of emotions going on too. I thought that was nice. Its good for Robyn to realize its not all about her. She bugs me for some reason althought I really like the other 3. I think she started off on a bad foot when she asked Cody to not tell them about the dress. Just the way she worded it like she expects there are certain things he will keep from telling the rest of the family. And yes I thought she was totally miffed that Mari wanted a family picture without her in her wedding dress. But it makes sense. I also thought it was odd how Cody was walking each family out after the reception but when Robyn saw that she went and interrupted him.

I don't know, I think personally seeing what happens after the wedding would be a whole lot more fun to watch than the courting part. Like how they blend into a new normal. And yes I wonder if TLC was paying for the wedding since before they always talked about how tight money is and the other wives, except Meri, said they all had low key weddings.

[emnic77]

I want to know where Robyn is going to live!! Will she share with another wife? Will they build an addition? I am fascinated by this show and can't wait for the next season.

[phathui5]

interesting that Meri, the only one that has just one child, that is a teenager, that could easily help out the other wives, was the one getting Cody ready!

It made sense to me. She is the first wife and for as much as she talks about how she doesn't abuse her position as first wife, she still has it.

[frugalmum]

I was wondering why meri and kody had roasted suntans during the interviews?? But I realize the interviews must have taken place after the mexico vacation which means there has been some strange editing and manipulating the perceived timeline. The suntan was not there in the oprah appearance. They all seemed very nervous on oprah, wonder why?

[mich]

I was thinking Cody must visit a tanning bed regularly. He had that strange white around the eyes look.

[jellybeanandkids]

Is this show available online?

[nia82]

So after reading this thread I watches some episodes... I too get a weird vibe from Kody, he's just not my type of person at all...
I wonder why they mention several times legal ramifications: Kody is only legally married to Meri, he only is married to the others in the eyes of his church, so there is nothing illegal... So why do they keep insisting on it (Oprah and homebirth issue)?
Robyn is very different than the others wives. I too think she comes from a broken family, possibly abuse there and is looking for a secure home, not knowing entirely what she signed up for (see secrets with Kody, I guess that is not how it is supposed to work in their lifestyle)... I don't think Robyn is a bad person or anything, she is just different, and emotionally unstable, understandably after her experiences I think.
Kody, at least in front of the camera, seems rather annoyed about emotional needs. But we don't know how it is really in their life, they also might edit it that way and ask him in weird situations or something. I mean somehow they have to keep it "sensational"...

[CrunchyChristianMama]

Originally Posted by nia82

I wonder why they mention several times legal ramifications: Kody is only legally married to Meri, he only is married to the others in the eyes of his church, so there is nothing illegal... So why do they keep insisting on it (Oprah and homebirth issue)?

Utah Law

103-51-2 — Chapter 112 of the Utah Penal Code. If any person cohabits with more than one person of the opposite sex, such person is guilty of a felony.

76-7-101. Bigamy — Defense. (1) A person is guilty of bigamy when, knowing he has a husband or wife or knowing the other person has a husband or wife, the person purports to marry another person or cohabits with another person.(2) Bigamy is a felony of the third degree.(3) It shall be a defense to bigamy that the accused reasonably believed he and the other person were legally eligible to remarry. Amended by Chapter 296, 1997 General Session

[MamieCole]

Originally Posted by Evie's Mama

Utah Law

103-51-2 — Chapter 112 of the Utah Penal Code. If any person cohabits with more than one person of the opposite sex, such person is guilty of a felony.

76-7-101. Bigamy — Defense. (1) A person is guilty of bigamy when, knowing he has a husband or wife or knowing the other person has a husband or wife, the person purports to marry another person or cohabits with another person.(2) Bigamy is a felony of the third degree.(3) It shall be a defense to bigamy that the accused reasonably believed he and the other person were legally eligible to remarry. Amended by Chapter 296, 1997 General Session

Wow! How much is that Chapter 112 enforced? That is a crazy law. Good thing I don't live in Utah. I have a husband and two sons. I live with all three of them. I am SUCH a felon!

[physmom]

Originally Posted by MamieCole

Wow! How much is that Chapter 112 enforced? That is a crazy law. Good thing I don't live in Utah. I have a husband and two sons. I live with all three of them. I am SUCH a felon!

Ditto. We actually had a roommate for awhile (long story but DH and I were living in separate countries due to work so I preferred having a roommate where I lived because I got lonely and because of costs). I also wonder how many families have other family relatives (like a younger brother or sister or even parents) who live with them as adults. The law seems pretty extreme but I get the impression it's not really enforced?

And I agree with others about Kody. He seems like a kid that is too hyper to really control his action. Reminds me of DD when she's in a destructive mood and she has to do something wild and crazy because she can't help herself. That thing where he got up and started dancing during the cake tasting was just weird, it reminded me of a little kid. On the other hand, I remember in college there were guys like him (really outgoing, showy, but lacking in understanding emotions) and they never seemed to have problems with girls so I guess some people must like that.